You Are Creating Your Reality — Whether You Know It or Not

Welcome to the show. Tired of the hype about living a dream? It's time for truth.This is the place for tools, power and real talk so you can create the life you dream and deserve your ultimate life. Subscribe, share, create. You have infinite power.Hello there and welcome to this episode of your ultimate life, the podcast we've been running for, well more than five and a half years to help create a life of purpose, prosperity and joy by serving with your skills, your gifts and your life experience. Today, I'm blessed to have a special guest, Dr. Amy Albright. Amy, welcome to the show.

Thank you, Ken. So nice to be with you.

I accept that. Exactly. As said, nice to be with you. Which has particular meaning.One of the first questions I like to start with, and we'll go wherever this goes, is I don't want you to be shy or bashful or modest or anything. I'm curious about every guest. What are the things that you do on purpose to lift and bless those you associate with?The phrase I like to use is add good to the world. But what things do you do intentionally to love and serve those people you meet?

Well, since you said it's okay not to be bashful, I'm going to go ahead and say that it's just a deep part of my wiring, the selflessness that I have and my desire to serve and my capacities, honestly.So it's, you know, if I'm, if I'm moving through the world, which I do every day, then I am, I am in service mode and I'm just wired to, to understand what is really going on, to be able to see through what appears on the surface, to be going on to the deeper layer and also to be able to track the inherent miracle or possibility that wants to come forward. And that might be a deepening of a conversation and a deep seeing and naming of what I see on inside of that person at a soul level.Or it might be me utilizing my gifts and skills as an intuitive, as a, as a doctor, a natural medicine doctor, you know, whichever. Any which way that I can bring forward.I love to talk about and to create a miracle and to leave a trail of miracles in my wake is a huge part of my daily orientation. So it's just, it's just in there.

So some people are going to hear all those words and think, huh, A lot of sort of woo woo stuff and so let's unpack it a little bit because however woo woo it might sound, there's it is true or one is true and, and there are Some real practical moment to moment life applications to the things that you're talking about. But the first thing I want to ask is you. I've got a background here and it's a mountain, right?And so somebody at the top of a mountain, they didn't fall up that mountain, right? So what, what happened, what set of things happened in your life that made this so important? You said it's part of my orientation or my orientation.I like what you said. Leave it a wake of miracles.And I intentionally don't give introductions at the beginning of shows and read crap because I just don't think it's important because it all comes out as we, as we do this. But what happened that made that who you. How you choose to walk through the world?

I think that I had a lot of responsibility early on. You know, when I was 15 years old, one of my sisters was born. And it turns out that then my. It was my dad and my sister stepmom.So I had another sister born when I was 17.But I think just right from the start, even before those kids were born and I started to basically act as another parent or a major guide, I was taking care of them all the time and working to help them to succeed in life in what felt like a very difficult and sometimes even very dangerous growing up environment. I think that I just had that a wisdom that felt beyond my years and a feeling of being a protector of the good.So my sisters being born when I was so young, I think it really amplified that and just had me drive that forward.I was also, you know, mentored by some folks that just taught goodness and were such coming from such a great place and a place of service and a place of, you know, everywhere we go, we have the opportunity to leave things better than we found them. Whether that's people and how they're feeling or a work project or an environment, you know, a space of the home.How do we leave things better than we found them was really instilled in me early on. But I also just saw what it's like to feel because I was coming from a point of view of feeling quite downtrodden.You know, the trauma and abuse that I grew up inside of, the physical health challenges that I was having, I felt like very much an underdog in a lot of ways. And so that had me as I overcame those mountains, as you said, I didn't just fall up. I had to really build and develop and restore myself.And it has created this, it's instilled a very deep desire to help other people in that same process and for them to not fall into the blah or the I'm fine, or just do what they've been taught, but rather to strive for something bigger. Because if I had done what I was taught that I was. I was taught that I didn't have any value. I was taught that things were unsafe.I was taught that people were terrible. If I had stayed there, it would have been a very different outcome, you know, And I. And I feel blessed that I've been able to get through that.

So there's something interesting. You've pointed to several layers here. One is you had a set of difficulties. Physical, medical, I don't know what they are.And you're free to refer or describe anything you want as it becomes important or appropriate. But you had a pile of challenges. So let's just say that so did I. So do lots of people. And two things.One, sometimes those things ruin us, and sometimes they refine us, and sometimes they ruin us for a day, a week, a year, a decade or whatever. And maybe eventually we allow them to refine us. You got through.And the getting through, the climbing that you did to get through those things is a story, an important story in itself because there are so many that. That fall into the addiction to mediocrity or learned helplessness or whatever that is. But you didn't do that.And that is maybe a story worth unpacking in a minute. And after you did that, like, you could have said, okay, good, I've got myself handled. I'm squared away. I'm no longer ruined by these things.And I've. I've got myself in a place where I'm okay. And then beyond that, I've got myself in a place where I'm.I've allowed these hardships to refine me instead of. I'm just toughen it out. And I got through them. That's completely different.

Yeah.

And then a whole nother layer of this is.And then I'm recognizing this yearning or call that I have to help somebody else, others, as many as I can, the whole world, which is, you know, you can stay ruined. You can barely get through. You can allow them to refine you. Okay, I'm cool. I'm good. I got it. I'm okay.And then the next calling that always seems to arise when we go through stuff. It's like, oh, good, now who can I help? Whose bridge can I help build over that canyon I just walk through? So talk about that.Because that's a whole progression of Things and people do that we want to love and serve after we've been through stuff. And I think it's just part of our divine nature. But talk a little bit about those layers.

Yeah, I mean, I think that everybody wants to have purpose and that we are all desired. We are all designed, I should say, to help and to serve. And if we're not in that, it's because we're shut down and still living inside of our wounds.Because I think that's just the essential nature.So what it is that I'm describing in me is what I see in everyone, and that we all have the opportunity to uncover this in a real way and to use it, to use that desire to help other people as fuel to get through the hard times. It's not like I just had a hard childhood and then everything was easy. I've gone through all kinds of hard times.When I was newly a single mom, I had to figure out, how do I earn far more money than I ever had before? At that point, my son was very young. How do I become the provider? And I didn't just think, how do I. How do I make a little bit money of money?How do I make it just enough to survive?But what I was realizing is that my son needed me to be the very best parent that I could be, because I am literally shaping his reality, his construct for what he thinks life is, comes from watching me, hearing me speak, right? So how do I create the most fantastic outcome for him? I have to continue to reconstruct myself. So I. I didn't aim for incremental.You know, definitely I was the underdog and had to come back and have had to come back from so many things in my life. But it was coming from this standpoint of how do I not aim for mediocrity? And I think a lot of that, Kellen, came from that I was introduced.I'm 50 years old now. I was introduced at age 18 to the complete understanding, like I really got it, that we are creating our own reality.And how I got that, just to back up a step, is I was 18 years old and I was studying neurosciences at the university, and I thought if we understood the brain, we could understand reality. So I was very interested in consciousness, But I was doing it from a very, you know, 2D place. Right? Like neurotransmitters equals reality.Let's just figure it out and help people by figuring it out. And then I, as an atheist, ended up having a massive spiritual awakening experience, which is, you know, not what I was planning.So when we talk about, yeah, a.

Lot of this stuff, it's like the red pill in the Matrix. Totally.

I didn't even know. Yeah, I didn't even know that I was swallowing. I didn't know that I had a pill choice.Like, there I was, you know, and I had this massive experience, and I was sent to that experience. It ended up being an experience on an acupuncture table where I felt like I was levitating and sinking.And I'm not saying I was, but that was my experience. And I felt like I could hear the voices of guides in my ears, but I didn't believe in guides. Like, this was really, really weird and.And blew out basically my construct of what reality was, you know, And I thought to myself, I. I knew in that moment with. With full clarity and certainty that there must be a God.And then the second part was this, that science would never be able to explain everything that is actually real. And so that's basically why I've woven together science and spirituality ever since.I don't want to throw away science, but science serves spirituality, knowing that spirituality is working inside of the infinite space and that science is always finite, it's always driven by humans. So it was a huge perspective shift. And that, I think, is what had me be open.The person that sent me to acupuncture, I didn't know I couldn't afford acupuncture at 18. So sick as I was and as much as I needed it, there's no way.The person that had sent me was my grandfather, who I didn't know well, because in said family dynamics, we were estranged from each other because of an estrangement of my father and my grandfather. So what he said is, you need to come around. I have things to teach you.So I have this, what I call my Big Bang moment where I burst into another reality there on the acupuncture table.

I like that Big Bang moment.

It's a good thing, right? It's like, holy crap. Yeah, holy crap. And so then I go and I show up for these conversations. You know, I'm.I have no idea what we're going to talk about. And it turns out he's a consciousness teacher.And the very first thing he begins to teach me at age 18, after having my Big Bang, is you are creating your own reality. And if you don't like the reality you're creating, then create a different one, right?So I came to understand that if I'm not liking how something is going, if something Isn't my ultimate.If it's not operating at levels of miracle and awe and wonder and delight and bliss, then I have things that I can reconstruct about my belief structure to have a better outcome. And it became in a way kind of formulaic, if that makes sense. On the one level, very simple.And on another level, it became a lifelong challenge and journey because really what is possible, right? And if, and if we're aiming for, as you've called it, mediocrity, then that's what we're going to get.But what if we aim for something entirely different and then what do we get? And how does the testing of that in this very intentional way, especially over the period of time that I've.This is 32 year journey and especially because I've helped to test it with my clients of all different kinds of backgrounds and in all different settings. You know, wow, that's a really big body of research of real life where the rubber meets the road. Not airy fairy, not woo.I mean, do you like the outcome? You know, how is that business going? It's $100 million business, but it's, you know, your margins are bad and it's, and it's bleeding out money.You have, you know, you have a terrible company culture, whatever it is. How do we, how do we create a different belief structure? How do we create a different frame?How do we look at it and really see it for what it is and change it?There's the business chops, but there's also just realizing that we're working inside of the hologram and that everybody is a leader and the leader at a pentacle is going to see their, their behavior or their beliefs put out everywhere in that organization, or the parent is going to see their beliefs put out everywhere inside of their children. And, and we can't blame the employees or the kids.We need to actually take responsibility for the reality that we are creating and look at and fix it. You know, if it doesn't feel awesome, let's fix it. Let's get it there.

You know, you said something that I want to make sure lands for people because you talked about, you became really aware that your behavior, your energetic self was shaping your son's understanding of his ability to create life and all the rest. Yet you came from a place where the shaping, that very same shaping that you received was anything but that.And you mentioned some illness and some other things. And so what's, what that points to then is even if, and this is point I want to make sure. People get.Because you've just illustrated, even if you didn't have a mother or a father or a set of parents who did what you did for your son, but you had a sucky start in whatever way you wanted to find. Sucky, physical, you know, mental, financial abuse, whatever it is, you don't have to stay there. And you are the evidence of that.And then you consciously, intentionally created stuff for your son, even though, you know, single mom and there were continued to be challenges.So I want you to talk about that idea for a minute, if you will, that it doesn't matter where you are, how old you are, whatever sucky stuff happened before, like, you can start today, wherever you're at.

Yeah, absolutely. You know, I think that a lot of the times, whatever it is that we've walked through, just seeks to impart wisdom.And so if we can glean the wisdom and drop out the trauma and come into true forgiveness and spaciousness, then all of that becomes the instruction manual. In my story, I see it that my father taught me everything that I don't want to do and I don't want to be a part of, right? The. The way that. That.The way that power was wielded, was unfair, was manipulative, was scary, was dangerous, right? And so it really brought me to an understanding, and so it drove me in such a way to be able to create from that place of opposite.But if I'd felt sorry for myself and said, oh, well, that's it, that's. And I'm going to just kind of do my best with parenting or being an adult in this world, I would never have been able to reconstruct that.I would never have squeezed all the juice from the lessons that that was. I wouldn't have been free inside of myself, not truly free, no matter how much success I created around me.And so being able to do that and understand that in many ways, that challenge is the gift. And to be able to move forward from there without feeling sorry for yourself, which can be hard.You know, we can move through things that can be so difficult.But to be able to come to a place where you understand that that's the gift, that there's freedom inside of that, and that the wisdom, once you've really freed yourself of all of the hardship, the wisdom is the thing that you get to live in as the continued gift and that you get to teach or help others with because there are these universal things, and it's not like, oh, yeah, watch out, the world is bad.But deeper and more potent Truths where you can see through the truth of a situation, where you can see through who we really are as individuals and what's possible. Every moment that we live is a potent moment for a miracle. Every moment, this moment, the next moment.And we're either paying attention for them, we're looking for them, or we're not.

You know, one of the things that we all, you and me, we use that word moment. And I always had trouble with that. Not because I don't like the word moment. I do. But, like, is that a millionth of a second? Is that like one second?What is a moment? Right? So I made a definition of a moment, and here's what it is. There's 60 seconds in a minute, 60 minutes in an hour, and 24 hours in a day.And if you multiply all that out, there's 86,400 seconds in a day, right? And I decided arbitrarily that there should be 10,000 moments in a day, because there should be a lot of them, right?And if you do that math, that means a moment is 8.64 seconds. And I love that definition because it's long enough to really get your teeth into and short enough so that it's just a moment, right? So that's the.I use it. And that's. I did that. And that's how I did that. I love it just because it feels like something. Me. Anyway, I can get my.

You can get your head around it, right?

My head, my heart, my arms. Yeah. 8.64 seconds. When I talk to people about moments, they say, you know, what are you doing with this? 8.64 seconds. Like right now, this moment.So if I can truly start from anywhere. And you have. I mean, you and I, we both know people feel trapped by their circumstance, unfairly dealt with.They got a raw hand and all kinds of descriptions of that. But the way you've described it is, gee, I don't have to think that I can. Not as a game, not as an excuse, not as a band aid.But I can decide that all of the things that I have had the opportunity to experience can be. Can be good, can be for my good, can be for my learning. And I know another fellow who had a similar.I don't know similar, but described, I learned from my dad, all the things not to do kind of thing, you know, the same description that you just gave. And that's not a fake. That's not a. It's not an excuse. It's a true thing. And life is exactly. This is My thought. I want your opinion.Life is exactly as hard as it needs to be for each one of us individually to give us the opportunity to make the most out of ourselves.

Yeah, right. Well, that's that. That's that piece about wisdom. What if we're not being punished? And what if it's not unfair?And what if, like all of that construct, that's not very helpful? But when we say, wow, I must have needed to learn this. And we glean for the wisdom. I like what you said earlier, the word band aid.I am not somebody that wants to spiritually bypass. This isn't none of what we're describing. We're using words and we're talking out loud. But this is not an intellectual process.This is more of an alchemical process. This is an energetic, emotional. There are ways to break it down and make it very step by step.But ultimately, it's the devotion, the dedication to really changing the landscape within, not just changing the thoughts, because the thoughts, I mean, they're helpful, they're important.But ultimately, the way that the universe organizes itself and the way that life happens and the way that the subconscious mind is meeting the moment is organized based on the subconscious. It's. It's organized based on sort of this unseen architecture of belief structures. Right.That is driving things, the wounding structures that can still exist, that can be driving things. And we can think whatever thoughts we want and we can convince ourselves, oh, it's fine. It all served. It's all perfect. Like on. We're.It's the same thing that we're saying, but it's. It doesn't come from an integrated place. And that integrated place is what drives the inquisition. It's what drives the alchemy.It's what drives the real healing and the real discovery when we're allowing for things to have true meaning and we're deciding to discover what that meaning is and live into the possibility that came through that life circumstance.

Because I like to give things names and acronyms. I call that structure that you've described, the context straightjacket. We live in a context straight jacket. And it's built out of five things.And of course, I have an acronym for that. BD Beliefs, Definitions, Experiences, Expectations and Perceptions.And that collection of crap forms this context straight jacket that is of our own making.

And it's totally.

Yeah, it's transparent. Flexible. But we don't know that until we know that. And then we can do something with it.

Yeah, absolutely. And that's another way to explain consciousness is the awareness of knowing that no matter what, we have a context.Straight jacket in cognitive psychology, which is what I ended up finishing my major in, it's the, the study of how the brain impacts behavior. How, how does what we believe we're going to perceive impact what we actually process, even though it may not be what's present right. It.So it's an incredible thing the way that the brain actually works.And as I, as I continue in my, in my laboratory space today to, to study the brain and how works, I can say that experientially and in a quantifiable data way, we basically want to continue down the road that we understand. And that, that term that you're describing is in, in psychology terms is called schema.And if something is outside of the schema, outside of the frame in which you believe that you can experience reality or what is real, it cannot be there. And then as soon as it's there, as soon as you realize that thing is real, then it's there.Kind of just, I'll say it could be there permanently from there on. And you wonder, how did you ever miss it? There's also places where you can go in and out of reality.And I see that as, you know, kind of the inside of a transformation. Somebody can have an insight.Maybe they have their own Big bang moment, whether that's, you know, acupuncture or psychedelics or the birth of their baby or whatever it is, these big life events that can create those breakthrough moments and.But then they can slide back down into the doldrums, into the smaller, old, well understood subconscious, sometimes schema or frame for how they think reality is constructed.And so I would say that as a strategist from the start, as soon as I realized at 18 that the ultimate strategy isn't understanding the minutiae of the parts like neurotransmitters, but understanding that we're inside of this landscape that is always yet to be revealed to us and that there's always something more that's outside of our perception in that moment. Then I became on fire to track what that is. What is it that I don't know right now that could change everything?What is it that's right there underneath my nose or underneath all of our noses that just wants to be said or spoken or identified or lived into as a possibility. But we could also run right past it. You know, a little kid.One of my favorite images that always comes to my mind, you put little plastic or real eggs out for Easter for little kids. They're running around with their basket.They're so wound up looking for the treasure that they could run past the one that's in the middle of the lawn. Like, it's not even hidden. It's in plain sight. They'll run right past it because they're not looking.They didn't broaden out their schema to include the ones that are so obvious. They're thinking they have to look under the bushes. Right. So these things can be hidden in plain sight. And they are, and they are, all the time.And no matter how smart we are, no matter how much work we've done, no matter whatever, how aware we believe we are, there's always another layer. There's always more. And I love that game personally.

Well, it's. It's just, you know, the mountain without a top is the thing that people say, you know, it is literally another layer, another opportunity.And I love the fact you said right under our noses, that we're just not seeing because we're not. We're not seeing. We're wearing lenses. Right. We have lenses that don't include that. That. That. The. That possibility.So people read books or they talk to you or talk to me or go to conferences or do whatever. And they have those moments of where the schema cracks, you know, and you can see something. Right. And consider a possibility.And the depth of that experience varies with the situation and the person and everything else. And most of the time, when they go to some place, they. They do. They slide right back in, into the familiar context. Life happens, is what they say.Oh, yeah, you go to the conference, read the book. Ah. And then, yeah, life happens. And so they slide back down.When you talk to someone or work with them or what would you say to help them at least begin to take advantage? I mean, there's. I. I had a moment. I saw it. I saw it.I know it was there to not, or to stop or to slow or to take advantage of that insight as opposed to sliding back down into the old familiar schema.

Yeah, it would be to create a place for that to live and to keep coming back toward it with intentionality. So maybe it's a breakthrough moment where somebody says, wait a minute, I am good enough or I'm lovable.Or maybe it's there at a conference, and they're like, wait, I have this business vision, or I have this vision for, you know, whatever. Be. Write it down and put it in front of you and come to it as a workshop. You know, there's. There's always within. Within.As we're coming through the fog. Basically, to be able to hold something consistently in our awareness, we have to dismantle that which is blocking.So that moment where it pops up, we want to really hold it in our awareness and be willing to confront like, hey, this is a project, like I said, in the example of a business possibility.

Great.

When you're on the high of being at the conference or at the mastermind group or wherever you were when that happened, it can seem very possible because you're with a whole bunch of people, because you're inside of an exciting environment.And when you go home, you can either forget about it and never have that opportunity open, or you can look at it and be with it and confront and resolve the insecurities, the worries that I don't know how to do it kind of one by one and say, okay, you know, let's dissolve that. Let's really, truly alchemize. I use the word alchemize because I, I want it to turn into the gift, the gold, right?We can take something that feels so yucky or discouraged or whatever it is and, and really shift it into beauty and possibility and, and a huge gift.So it's really the devotion inside of that space and knowing that if you tell yourself, I'll just say a lot of BS and lies like I can't or I'm not enough or it wouldn't matter if I tried or my mom wouldn't think it would do a good idea or whatever their ideas might be, right? It's like, yeah, and those are lies too. If this is what I am to do, right?So working within highest self or greater, greater good or the powers that be, if this is what I am to do, then show me, teach me, heal me, guide me, show me the way and may I find the path to this and may I burn any part of me that is inside of doubt, denial, or whatever, you know, anything which is not courageousness and ease towards this path and be devoted inside of that space.

I love. Earlier you said something about the rubber meets the road part. So as you're describing that, put it somewhere. Like, don't just think it.Put it somewhere and then revisit it with intentionality. And I'm thinking is a practical matter. The. Put it somewhere on your calendar.Do you have an hour a week or two hours a week or something where you are intentionally devoted to those things? Where you go to that section in your notebook and you revisit and you relive live or, or. And.Or do you have a Daily practice where in your reflection or meditation you allow the feeding, as it were, the feeding of those possibilities to, to return you, neurotransmitter wise, both physical and spiritual neurotransmitters, to the state that you felt and the vision that you saw then as a, as a, as practical steps to start.

Yeah.

Keep that vision alive.

Yeah, absolutely. It's gotta be.I mean, I don't know that you have to touch that particular vision every day, but I sit, I recommend that I, and I sit myself every day and in a contemplation, reflection, journaling, meditation chair.And I am sure to weave, you know, if I have something like that that I'm working toward, I might just stick a sentence that reminds me about it in front of that chair on the wall. Just, you know, hang a little simple piece of paper. It doesn't have to be fancy, but I want that tactile thing.And then I'm going to sit and journal and reflect. I'll invite it into my dreams, you know, let the subconscious mind work with it overnight.Wake up the next morning and offer a prayer, you know, and then journal on it. Right. Like how, you know, how deeply can we dig in? And it does, it has structure.And then, you know, as it progresses, if it's a business idea, for instance, then I'm going to start to workshop it.I'll bring my initial ideas out and show them to other people, which means that there can't be any shame or, or, or, you know, or not so much that I'm afraid to bring it forward. Right. I can't be so nervous that, that I'm not bold enough to start to share it and talk about it.And so it's really learning how to nurture these things over time to be able to integrate the real change. You know, there's a part of us that needs to be able to work through a process that we can pledge ourselves to that, to that outcome.And as we pledge ourselves to that outcome, then we become even more devoted. Instead of that space, we can work with these big turbines of power inside of ourselves to make it the reality.

So what this all points to is back to what you started with in the beginning, which is what you learned or began to learn on the acupuncture table, that we create our reality. And you've studied neuroscience and things like that.And also in the realm of physics and those kinds of things, I want you to, from your own experience, maybe give a story or two or something that you will help listeners not just intellectually, but Viscerally accept that truth because it's an eternal truth that we create our reality, yet we are indoctrinated, socialized, taught that that is magical thinking. Right. As opposed to directional power. So talk a little bit about helping a person who's listening, who wants what you're saying to be true.And they're having the noise that is on the other station.

Yeah, I mean ultimately the noise that's on the other station is, is, is a part of the programming. And recognizing that that's just a part of the programming. Right.So you know, I think that the first story that comes to me is understanding the kind of the arc of my career space. So I thought that I needed to study the brain and be an atheist like I said.And then I realized, wait a minute, I need to understand, you know, that there's a lot more and how do we understand reality over time?So I ended up taking a whole bunch of classes in anthropology and I was studying shamanism and indigenous rites of passage and ways of healing around the world. And I was fascinated by the way that people were before we could communicate with each other. And I decided to just trust to move forward in that way.I let myself follow that thread. So on the one hand my studies were about the brain and on the other hand it was about spirituality. And that didn't seem to make sense.But I knew that I was creating my own reality to the point that you were making. And I knew that there was a draw here and I was answering that pull.And I didn't know how to control the outcome per se, but I knew that I had to listen. I decided at some point that I didn't want to be a researching professor. That's what I was studying for.Because they would try to make me study the same thing for the rest of my life. And I did not want to create that reality.There is no way that my curiosity could be anchored in on one little theory about the brain for the rest of my life. That sounded terrible. And so I knew that because I was creating my own reality, I needed to find a bigger container, I had to find bigger answers.So I did something that other people might think was crazy. I bought a one way ticket to Costa Rica back before there was ecotourism back. I mean it was a, it was a raw country back then.It was a beautiful, and it still is a beautiful country. But I went and I got a one way ticket because I knew that I was creating my own reality. And while I was there.This is really fun actually, as some of the stories. It's like I don't know the language very well. I have no idea where I am. There's not a lot of travelers. People are getting around.I, I would get into cars and hitchhike. I am not recommending this, by the way, but this is what, this is what I did.And, and I would put my bag underneath a large bus and I was the only non local person on that bus. And I couldn't see luggage in and out of the back or the underside of the bus at all of the various stops. But I decided that my bag would be safe.I decided that every vehicle that I got in, whether it was a bus or someone's car or the back of a truck, you hitchhike on backs of trucks there, right? So I decided that every ride was going to be safe. And I could feel certain moments.When I was in Costa Rica, I got off the bus one time and there's no air conditioning on these buses and it was bumpy dirt roads and I'm standing there in a bus station. I feel like I've basically melted to death. I'm so hot.I'm completely drenched in sweat and I feel a little bit brain dead from the whole travel and I'm looking up trying to figure out where do I go next on a bus. This was the most pivotal moment where I really got it in my body that we do create our own reality. I could feel suddenly a shift in something.And I looked down from the big billboards that I was reading the sign, feeling really hot and overwhelmed and confused. And I saw a guy moving toward me.And at the time I wouldn't have said that I knew anything about how to see or perceive energy, but let's just say that the guy was throwing off really bad vibes. And amongst the crowd that was moving about the, the bus station, he was making a beeline for me.And I'm standing there with a backpack on my bag that probably weighs 70 pounds. It's, it's taller than my head, right. And that's not normal.So not only do I not look like everybody else in the bus station, but I also have something heavy on my back that makes me a bit of a target. And I thought, this is not what's going to happen right now. I don't know what this guy wants, but I don't want anything to do with him.And so in that moment, I feel like I, I don't know how to explain it exactly. Maybe like put out a huge force field of energy. There was an Internal roar.There was a claiming of my sense space, my two feet on the ground that was like, whoa. And this isn't going to happen. Whatever it is you think you're going to do, buddy, is not going to happen.He was still about 10 or 15ft away from me, and his eyes got really wide and he stopped in his tracks. And then he looked very confused and a little bit knocked out of his own center. And he did an about face and he walked the other way.And I'm like, okay, that, that's huge. You know, I'm 22, 23 years old, and I didn't have to know personal defense, and I didn't have to wait for my fate to be decided.I decided my fate and I changed everything without having to yell, without having to scream. My energy, my decision, my outcome. So that to me, I brought with me through the rest of my life and. And ended up on a very.I create my own reality path for career because I continue to weave the nerdiest of neurosciences with the most profound spiritual teachings and practices and bring those to leaders around the world.Today, if I had gone the route that was chosen, like my family wanted me to be a schoolteacher, so, you know, and then I thought I maybe wanted to be a professor at university, but I just kept on following and knowing that I was creating my own reality. And I couldn't have created one this amazing.I couldn't have created a reality that was so fun and dynamic and on the leading edge, you know, rooted in science and also deeply mystical in its application, all at the same time.

Are we glad there's a more intelligent designer than us?

It's such a relief.

Yeah. If we think about life as a, you know, the playbook of life.And if we write the playbook, you know, we probably wouldn't write it with all the hardships and struggles and pain, especially really, really hard ones, because we have a certain idea in mind. And the playbook of the designer is to give us the opportunity to become, to maximize the gifts, talents and opportunities that we have.And this one is over a lot of hills and crawling over a lot of broken glass to get there. And the metaphor that I use is just decide, okay, I've done with this playbook. We'll just use this one. Have at it. And so what's the mountain today?Is the question I often ask her. Okay, what's the mountain today?

Yeah, I think you bring up a really good point.What I hear you saying as I listen is there's this space about there's a creator or a design that's being played out for us that's bigger than what we could imagine, or in many ways, it's something that's a track that we're on, that, you know, how much choice do we have inside of that? And how does that belief and understanding of we create our own reality work if there's something bigger than us in charge?

So that's a great question. And when I say in charge, I don't mean that you're going to go there no matter what. You have agency, because otherwise you don't create your reality.But the opportunity, the way I think about it, is, look, we're born in this world. We have nothing. Like, we're completely dependent on whatever, right? I got nothing. I mean, I bring whatever came from.Wherever I was, I got that wrapped in my little DNA, spiritual DNA. The only thing I'm taken home is what I've made of myself. That's it.And when I think about it that way, and, you know, many listeners know I died once and already had these conversations, but when I think about the only thing I'm taking back is what I've made of myself. I don't want to have that conversation without having given it all.

That's right. Yeah. And given it all. And really living from that place is where the choice exists.If maybe it is that we're put on the planet to learn certain things, do we want to learn the hard way or do we want to learn them the easy way? Right. Do we want to achieve the goal or do we want to see the goal and never get there? And so that's, I think, what really lights us up.And I love what you're saying, is you're pointing towards what we have inside of ourselves, which has something to do with what we've done externally, maybe. I know you've written a lot of books and done a lot of podcasts. Right. I've helped a ton of patients and clients over the years.We've done, we do whatever it is that we do, but ultimately there's this tracking and this understanding that what we bring forward is the expansive heart, the wisdom, the experience set that comes forward for us as souls as we move into whatever afterlife is.

And, you know, when we. When we. When we were built to love and serve. And when we do that, it just seems to me the experience that I have is there.Our souls, the spirit, the energy, whatever that is becomes more substantive. There is more substance to us as we add to it with that love and service and so when I say we take home, that's all we take home. This is what we.What we have created and what we've chosen to do. And if we choose nothing, then we take nothing home and maybe a backpack full of regret. I don't know.So what didn't I ask you or what didn't we talk about that you want to make sure that we cover today?

That's a good question. I always want people to know that they are creating their own reality. I feel like we covered that.I think another piece of that that we've pointed to, but I'd like to make sure really lands for people, is that what we're describing is an interconnectedness, that we are more than our mind and that we are these incredible miracles, like our body functioning, the fact that we were born, all of that is a miracle. Life itself is full of miracles in every moment, you know, and we create and experience that as a collection.And that knowing that we're interconnected at the level of the mind does not actually help us to tap into the experience set and the reality that we're describing. It's as we drop that into our body and we can do that in the smallest of ways that build over time.I really love, and I still am fascinated with the brain and the brain's ability to be rewired and amplified so that we can achieve that better and faster than, you know, just through life experience change alone.But however we get there, it's so important that we unleash ourselves from what are actually really painful, limiting beliefs or schemas and frames that are smaller than what we're designed for. And expect more, but not because we then need to be a bigger martyr or a better workaholic.But expect more because we are working within the connection of the divine. We're working within the support and.And we're breathing as one being and allowing for grace to fill through us in such a way that we can serve with ease, that we can walk our own path with joy, not with servitude, Right? And there's a huge difference there. So living inside of that connection is, is. Is a massive and very important thing.

I always want to ask, what if the truth is what we can become and create is so much bigger than we can possibly imagine? Like, if that is a foundational truth, then the questions are, how do I learn how to connect? How do I learn how to listen?How do I learn how to surrender? And you know, the word surrender in the context of create, your reality might seem contradictory, but it's not.

That's right.

You know, how do you, how do you learn to do that better? Because that's the thing that makes life richer, better, more capable of exploring all the things that are possible.

Yeah. How do I surrender the things that are blocking grace and miracles and possibilities right now?How do I surrender those pieces so that I can come into the fullness of what is possible?

Yeah.When I think about that playbook, it almost seems arrogant to me to say how in the world would I have any idea, I'm going to completely surrender to the truth that my idea of this playbook is microscopic. It has way too few pages. So I'm going to chuck that and we'll go with the encyclopedia and have some trust.Amy, I want to thank you for being with us today and sharing your heart, your journey, a little of it. And tell everybody where they can find more if they want to find more. Amy, find books, programs, stuff you have.If they need another dose of Amy, which I heartily recommend. Where do they do that?

Yeah, I think the best place is our website, which is holonexperience.com it's spelled H O L O N experience dot com. There's actually a massive tool on there that is a life transforming tool.A lot of these places where we talk about being inside of the connection and the experience of feeling that interconnectedness. A lot of the times it's hard to do that and it doesn't work at the level of the mind.There's a free tool on there that you can download and use eyes open and eyes closed, moment by moment for the rest of your life that will hold you in that understanding in your body of being connected. So I want to just draw everybody's attention to that. It is such a powerful tool. That tool by itself changes lives.So that's available as a free download as soon as you get to the website. You'll find that@holonexperience.com and then you can see the programs there.And then if you just want to hear me talk more, there's a variety of YouTube clips on my YouTube. YouTube, which is Dr. Amy Albright.

I want to recommend that Dr. Amy Albright on YouTube and it's worth it to go listen to stuff and hold on. H o l o n experience.com.

That'S right.

Good. Well, thanks for sharing with me today.

Thank you. Thanks for the very fun and rich conversation. Kellen, I appreciate you.

You are welcome. And I appreciate and honor the work you're doing listeners. I want to invite you to pay attention.We have lots of guests on here and Dr. Amy is really a special one. And there is fundamental, eternal truth in the fact that you don't have the ability at this mind to conceive of what is available to you.And if you can just start there and let that sit with you and then ask, okay, cool, how can I start to get to that direction? How can I start to move there? What do I need to let go of and move with that?So I would encourage you to listen again and to go and take advantage of those places we just talked about. Because I can also promise you it will be helpful as you move forward to create your ultimate Never hold back and you'll never ask. Quiet.

I open your heart.

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