The Invisible Phase of Success Nobody Prepares You For

Have you ever been stuck in the middle? You know, you start good, you have a big goal, and there you are, stuck in the middle. Welcome to the show. Tired of the hype about living the dream?It's time for truth. This is the place for tools, power, and real talk so you can create the life you dream and deserve your ultimate life. Subscribe, share, create.You have infinite power. Welcome to your ultimate life. Today, I want to normalize. I want you.I'm sharing my own experience and my own concerns and worries, but also that of clients that I have, people that get stuck in the middle. We start with a big dream. We start with an idea we know is going to be important. And usually it's some business idea.We're trying to change the world. Now that's not always the case.Some people already have economics handled and they have either money that they've accumulated, earned, inherited, or whatever, but, and, and so the only thing they're worried about is philanthropy and working to add good to the world. Now, I'm not even talking to those that want to greed and hoard and sit. You know, you're not in this program.What I am talking to is people that have the yearning in their heart to do good. And if you've already got your, your sustenance, your coin figured out, then that's the focus that you have.Then there's those of us, myself included, who still make money and who need to make money in order to maintain life and some degree of lifestyle. So that's normally, normally where most people are. And we have a business.Maybe we started and the business were torn between ideas like selling widgets, you know, on, on Amazon or ebay or something, or doing some consulting based on what we've done earlier in life. And those things are all possible. But I'm talking to the purpose driven entrepreneur.I'm talking to the purpose driven visionary, the per person that's had some kind of an experience that wants to change the world, right? The world might start with yourself, might start with your family or your acquaintances.It might start with your business networking group that you belong to. It might start with your neighborhood or your city or your country or maybe the world. And the truth is, none of those visions are too big.So let's start clearly with the notion and the knowledge that none of that stuff is out of control or too big. What happens is sometimes we look at the vision and say, oh, it's too big and we give up before we start. All right?Sometimes we start and it's harder than we thought or it doesn't just line up quickly. And so we say, oh, I shouldn't have been doing that. That must have been a stupid idea, right?Or we go after stuff hard for a while and we have some success. We see a good vision and picture. I got this beautiful picture behind me and all these, you know, slogans and ideas on the page.And we know that we're doing a good thing.And we don't understand why it's so many twists and turns, why the trail has so many switchbacks, or why it takes so long to sprout some fruit or make some difference or make some money or both. And we get stuck in that idea. And then on top of that, we read books and go to seminars and talk to other people that seem to be, quote, doing it.In other words, they're making the impact that they say they're going to make. And they seem to be making good coin and making a difference and they're happy and so forth.Now we're going to subtract all the fakers, subtract all the people that are showing highlight reels and pretending life's easy. So we're going to burn all those to the ground right now. I'm talking about the real rest of us, the core of us that get busy, get after it.And it just takes too long. There's the valley between the mountaintop where we started, where we had this vision, and the mountaintop where we arrive.Now, there's a lot of ways to approach this. One is with some platitudes to say every moment along the way is just the same mountaintop. All you have to do is just get after it.And that's true to an extent, but it's difficult to turn that into energy every day. Okay, I have a long morning routine, two hours every single day to prepare myself for the purpose and mission I've declared.Reaching 300 million people, creating 150 million dollar business, building ultimate Life University, changing the world. That's my goal. And I prepare myself, see that vision and marinate it in it every morning, including this morning.And notwithstanding all that, there's a, there's a, there's a energetic valley and dip and struggle. And it comes from a mismatch in expectation. Okay, we have the idea. We live in this compressed time frame. What do we live, 50 years, 100 years?You know, in the cosmic scheme of things, you know, the estimate is the universe has been unfolding for 15.6 billion years, whatever, a long time. And so our hundred years doesn't even register as a micro dot, right? Doesn't. But to us, it's everything. It's like the whole universe.And we didn't even become awake and sentient until we were in our 20s or 30s, or in my case, my 50s. Before that, I was just living this churning of that I was supposed to do that was somebody else's crap. And they believed it earnestly and sincerely.But that didn't have anything to do with it for me. And it doesn't for you either.Until we land an anchor on our own vision, purpose, mission, stuff that comes from inside and our own connection with the infinite, the universe, God, the divine. Until I did that, I didn't have a real vision and I didn't have power to do this. But regardless of all that connection, there are days that it sucks.Weeks, months. And the questions are, why is this so hard and why is this taking so long? And for me, those are pretty universal.For me, I always defaulted to what did I do wrong, what did I miss, what did I not do that I was supposed to do to make this thing happen? Like what? That kind of frustrating feeling. So I told you I'm building $150 million vision. I'm building a infrastructure to reach 300 million people.I'm absolutely convinced, committed and focused on those goals. And they're not even goals, you know, I'm living from the reality of those. There's a lot of ways to think about things, goals that are out there.And the way I prefer, and I find more energizing is to live, believe, talk, act as if that is already true.Because it is, it is already in the, you know, get weird quantum field and all the probability field, the alternative space, depending on whose woo woo language you use, that exists for me and for you. And even though I know that and sometimes I feel it till it melts my molecules, sometimes the hard part isn't just believing the vision.It is the space waiting for it to arrive. And I don't even like the word waiting because sitting around waiting, of course, is zero, nothing. And sometimes we do just wait.Sometimes more fussing gets in the way. But even with our, our work, there's a place between vision and manifestation that we don't talk about a lot. I'm going to call it the vision.The valley of between the vision and arrival. Okay? And that's it. And it's real. And it's hard. Now let's talk about.We talked about the reality that that exists and I want to talk about what to do about it, okay? There's a difference between. Between certainty and timeline. Certainty. I. I give you a funny example that I just remembered.I was taking my dog for a walk. This was years ago when Joy and I lived in Phoenix. And it was right after the 2008 market crash. We lived there from 2008 to the end of 2016. And the.There was a big development across the. Across the major boulevard.We lived in one development that was nearly done before the crash, and we ended up buying the show home in that development because that was the last thing they had to sell. And so we had a really good deal because, of course, it was after the crash.And across the street, across the boulevard, there was a big development a mile by a mile, and it had started and the roads were in and so forth that, you know, utilities are underground. The roads were in, and they built the show homes. And then the crash.And so it sat like that for two, three years, just, you know, roads and lots and some of the brick fences were up and, you know, nice master plan development. But it sat like that for two or three years.Anyway, I used to take my dog for a walk out in that area a lot, like for an hour or something, and it was really nice. One day I was thinking about seeing the future and how the divine.You know, it says that time is only measured for us and God sees everything in the present, right? And I thought, how is that possible? And so then I had this example that just plays like this. This valley between vision and arrival. I was.My dog that I had at the time, since past, used to love to chase rabbits. And there were rabbits in that area during some of the year. Not in the hot part, but in the spring, late winter, early spring and early summer.And then they would disappear. I don't know where they went, but anyway, they. He man loved to chase rabbits. And, you know, if you.He would pull on the lead and if he was loose, he would just take off after him. Never caught one. But hey, he loved to chase him. So anyway, I knew, I knew without any question that if my dog saw a rabbit, he'd go crazy.I knew that that was a given.Then I had this experience where I was coming up to a corner in this area, and this was a place where some of the shrubbery and bushes and things around a park had already been installed. And it was short shrubbery.It was maybe four and a half or five feet tall, not, you know, not really high, maybe four feet, four and a half feet tall. So I could see over the shrubs and what I Saw over the shrubs was some rabbits around the corner, but I could see them.My dog, on the other hand, could not see them because he was down below the level of the shrubs by quite a ways, you know, a foot and a half off the ground. And I was 6ft, so I could see them.And I'm walking toward the corner, and I knew with absolute certainty that the minute I got around the corner, my dog was going to go crazy. And the dog was blissfully unaware of that. And sure enough, we got to the corner and the dog went crazy.And I didn't let him off the lead this time, but I had him.So what struck me at the time and landed with the force of spiritual revelation, like those things land right, was that is how, from an elevated position, I could see the future. It was only a few seconds in the future, maybe 15 seconds, but I could see the future, and I absolutely knew what was going to happen.So that gave gives me perspective about this valley between vision and arrival. Okay, and certainty versus timeline. I knew that the dog was going to go crazy, but not now.And so when I think about this and feel stuck or frustrated or wondering, it is because of my own compressed timeline. I got my hundred years. I'm already 70. I started this mission when I was 52, so 18 and a half years ago, going on 19 here pretty quick.And I have this vision that has changed and grown. It's done nothing but grow over time. And I. I know that those things are coming and still find myself struggling with the timeline. Struggling.I hate that word. Uncomfortable, impatient, chafing, whatever it is, right? So here's some subtle things. Some people have trouble really believing their vision.I don't have that. I used to, but I don't have that trouble. I see it, I know it, I feel it. It makes me have goosebumps when I talk about it, you know?And I know the vision. I know it's coming, and I know it's real.And I've had enough interaction and confirmation and conversation with the divine that I'm absolutely certain that this is coming. So I have absolute certainty. And I still get stuck on the timeline. Why isn't it here yet? What did I miss? Did I not hear all the instructions?Did I do something wrong? Did I fail to act when I should have? And so then that struggle is completely related to timing.And then regularly, I get to sit my butt down and remind myself of the things that I have written in the spirit, in revelation, knowing that certain things are coming and going to happen, but the Timeline is not mine to decide any more than it was the dogs to decide.I could have stopped and waited a few minutes, a couple minutes, and maybe the rabbits would have stayed, whatever, but probably because they weren't running, they were just hanging out. And so this is where we turn inward and we start getting after ourselves. And when we do that, it isn't toward hope. We turn in.We don't turn into hope. We turn into some kind of recrimination and blame inside of us. So this is like the Creator's trap. Okay.When you believe in creation principles, like we do, right, that our intention literally shapes reality. And that happens in subtle ways.If you're mad at someone or you're frustrated or indifferent and you go have a conversation, it's going to be way different than if you approach the conversation with love because you really care about them. Your own internal state and intention dramatically impacts the content and the outcome of the conversation, whatever it's about, right?Think of your partner, think of a business partner, think of a prospect. If I'm distracted and fearful, I gotta sign a client that pushes people away. If I'm not truly loving toward my spouse, they can.Joy could feel that in an instant. Okay, so our, our intention. Our intention dramatically shapes outcome. That's first. The second thing is faith moves mountains. We've all heard that.And sometimes I've wondered, what does that mean? Okay, I have faith, mountain move. And it never happens like that. Well, we have to go back to understand what faith is.The evidence of things hoped for, the substance of things not seen.And so I do have absolute and complete, a monumental faith in my mission in God, in the eternal purpose that you have and that I have, I have that faith. And then I think, well, what am I not doing? Because if faith moves mountains and I have faith, oh, I must not have enough faith.Oh, I must have missed something in that same litany of stuff I just said a minute ago. And none of that's true. And so a dangerous interpretation shows up at that moment, which is, it happened, it hasn't happened yet.Whatever happened means like we have this picture. So I have that picture of reaching 300 million people and 150 million dollar business. It hasn't happened yet. So what did I do wrong?I must be doing something wrong, I. E. Failing to do it or whatever. But the problem is that logic is flawed because creation and timing are not. Never were the same thing. You know, they're not. They're not.Creation is a process and timing is also a process. Minutes move along And I have the idea. So I've got a timeline, and maybe you do too. Something ought to happen by here or by here.Sometimes that's around. I need it to happen by then, or I made a goal for it to happen by then, or I'll be in trouble if it doesn't happen by then.That kind of language, whether you speak it or just feel it, and creation takes its own time. And timing moves in a linear fashion, plus or minus the speed of light and relativity equations, right?Creation and timing do not act or are not influenced by the same variable. I influence. You influence direction with our intention and our action and faith, as it were, or belief in an outcome.But I don't control the unfolding speed. Now, we see that all the time in the physical world and construction. We put up a thing. We're going to build a house or a building or a skyscraper.The weather doesn't cooperate, or financing doesn't cooperate, or city permitting doesn't cooperate or unforeseen other things don't cooperate. And so we have all these other variables that change the unfolding speed.And then we end up getting frustrated and thinking somehow we're doing something wrong. And I get in that trap all the time. It can be as simple as a list of things I'm going to do today. Right?For the last two days, I've had a computer problem, not with this machine. This is my video station and so forth. And this is working flawlessly. Although two months ago the CPU failed and so all kinds of problems.And I eventually had to get intel to send me a new cpu. Fortunately, it was under warranty, Right? But that caused enormous problems.Now, a different computer, the one over in the recording studios on the fritz. I did a Windows update and it somehow crashed the video kernel. And I've been troubleshooting for two days, repairing things and, you know, following.Thank goodness for chat. GPT gets us down in the, you know, the, the window, the command prompt. So I've been able to do a lot of things, but it still isn't fixed.And so those things influence timing. I got three songs I'm trying to finish. So that happens. It happens to you and it happens to me, and it's just normal.But what the negative thing is, it turns to poison when I say I suck in some way. All right, so. So let's talk about the invisible construction phase, okay? And if I just was talking about a building, a skyscraper, okay.Most of the time is underground, right? You see those fences that are up often with wrap and you can't even see in there. And you see machines above and below, but we don't see any of that.And the taller the skyscraper, the more that goes on underground.Pillars and pylons and things go deep into the earth and are built a certain way with inspections and not counting all the delays that might happen with weather and snow. And I live in Edmonton, so I'm thinking about snow, right? Frozen outside and we'll be from November to April. Snow in the yard, but that is invisible.You've got to dig down deep in the foundation. Steel infrastructure permits. And there's nothing that anybody can see driving down the street. Nothing there. Oh, that guy's been at that for months.What's going on in there? What if they ran out of money? Right. That kind of idea. And so here's the thing. The bigger your vision, the longer the prep phase makes sense.The taller the skyscraper, the deeper the foundation, the. And all that stuff happens before we see anything amazing.But it's true and it's important to remember, and I got to remind myself of that all the time. So if you get stuck in the. In the. In the. Why didn't it happen this fast? Or what am I doing wrong? Or what did I miss?Or maybe I'm wrong and it's the wrong vision and all that kind of stuff that I hear people talk about all the time as a coach. And I have felt those things and asked him and wondered. And I have methods now to get out of it and get done in a day, in an hour, in a minute.But I didn't used to it. It used to delay me. So that is the valley between, you know, the vision and the arrival. Now, for me, excuse me, and maybe for you, I had a.An additional piece that was bothering me, and that was depression. I struggled for decades with mdd. Major Depressive Disorder. Started when I was in my teens.How it manifested for me was a solid and deep and profound belief that I wasn't good enough. And I never really would be.I was never going to be able to do what I, you know, was supposed to do or wanted to do or thought I could do or even was told I could do. You know, there was no shortage of my parents saying, oh, you can do anything you want. But the upbringing was.Was violent and, and certainly not reinforcing in that way. So I left my childhood believing I was not good enough and never would be.And on top of that, that I was bad because I'd made all these mistakes my mom particularly hated, and. And I was Bad, bad. And was punished a lot.Even after I left home, I was disincluded from family stuff and kicked out of this, not allowed to visit this, that and the other. And I'm not going to go into detail here, but it reinforced all those feelings. And so I struggled for decades, decades, decades with depression.And how it manifested for me is, I don't deserve this. I can't have it.And when I created some success, business wise, career, you know, I started advancing, getting good things, I didn't believe I deserved it. And because I never got any. Yeah, you're good. Oh yeah, you're doing good. I never got any of that. None, none, none, none. So what happened?I internalized it. I'm not good enough. I won't make it and I never will be.So if you've lived with someone that has depression or you, then you, you know what I'm talking about. We've got an old pathway that says if something isn't working, it must be me. Or if it is working, it was an accident and I don't deserve this.It's not about the timing or the complexity or the construction phase or anything. It's just me. And I know, you know, what that feels like. In my case, I let that go on for decades. I did not seek help. I did not know I could.I did not understand what was available and what was possible. Those old beliefs were woven so deeply in my DNA that I did not know how to remove them. As you know, I'm now 70 and I started working on this at 52.So for the last 18 and a half going on 19 years, I have been and it's gone. And I now know. But I started late and it took the time that it takes. I'm that I was, I believed I was that problem.All right, so the first thing is we got to be aware that that's not true and that we're living in, you know, with bad sunglasses on. And here's the truth about creation.But before I say the truth about creation, if you struggle with self love, self belief, momentary depression, sustained depression, clinical, you know, depression or bipolar or any of those kind of things, do something about it. I didn't for decades.And it cost me, cost me dearly, relationships, millions of dollars, some, you know, attempts on my own life and just some grumpy stuff. So take the action because you're not designed to stay there. So let's talk now about the cruise truth of creation. Faith is not a stopwatch.Faith is a direction. It's like A compass. I'm facing north or west. I'm facing the direction. I'm not considering any other path. I'm moving in the direction I need to move.Faith says, my direction is right now. That takes some work and achieving that state. So it's easy for me to say, find your orientation and stay that way.And the finding of that orientation is another entire episode, because that's a process and you need to do the work. And, you know, that's the kind of work I do with people. Also, if you're having trouble finding your direction, let's talk, okay?Kellen Fluker Media.com Kellen Fluker Media.Com Use the contact form. Let's talk. Because I can help you find your direction, but you got to find your direction first. The second thing is you have to get to a place.This also takes some work where you know your work matters.And I suspect that will be easier because most people that have a yearning to add good to the world, help others, whatever your language is, have been through some difficult stuff that you've achieved, you've overcome or you're in the process of overcoming. And that action makes us feel like, I know I could help people. And you're right, you could. So I don't have a doubt about that.And again, if you want help with any of those things, reach out, like I said. And here's the process. For me, my healing was a process. I didn't suddenly wake up one day and be healed. That was nonsense.It took two, three, three or four or five years. You know, it's still a mountain without a top.But the intense work was the first two to three years after I had a divine intervention at the end of 2007. He didn't fix anything, but it woke me up to new possibilities.And so it took the next three years to figure out what that was and to get the help and movement that I needed. And then my vision began to unfold about what was possible and what I was called to do.One of the things we think about or talk about is faith somehow going to eliminate effort. And it never does, not in any universe. If I sit around and have faith, it's like the law of attraction without the action.I'm just going to sit around and think, visualize and imagine, and it's not happening. Farmers can visualize full fields, and if they don't plant their toast, sculptors can visualize beautiful statues.And if they don't carve, it ain't happening. You can sit around and say, wealth comes to me. Magically and easily and etc. And if you don't do, anything's not happening.So action is the key part of the law of Attraction. And faith is important in that. Now, one of the things that I got stuck on is that the visible markers of progress were too slow.The visible markers were slow. But it doesn't eliminate effort. It does stabilize the effort.It stabilizes the effort that says, okay, I'm doing the right things, I'm doing the right things, and I am moving in the right direction. And again, that certainty is available to you. The certainty that you're moving in the right direction is yours to have anytime you want it.And again, if you're not sure of your direction, and if you don't have certainty about your direction, meaning that deep knowing, let's talk. Because that's something I've learned to do for myself. And now I help others do. And as a coach, then take.I help people take the right actions to get to those dreams. So I can look at this mountain behind me and I can think that's the right way. I can start on it.And then there's a valley, and then there's some struggle, and the timing's hard, and it takes longer than I want, right? And so I get discouraged or I turn it inward and start blaming myself. Well, here's the truth. Everything takes longer than we think. Always.You know, once in a while, things are shorter than we think, but not normally. Most things are more difficult than we imagined. Most things take longer than we want, and most things require effort we did not plan for.We just finished the Olympics a few weeks ago. And all you have to do is ask any of those Olympians, the big air gals and guys, or the speed skaters, or any of those winter sports. Summer, too.But we just had the winter. If you.The work to get to that stage took longer than they thought, was harder than they thought, and went through several valleys between vision and arrival. And in those valleys that are between vision and arrival, we have a choice. And the choice we have is to give up.Or we can choose to say it wasn't the right vision, or we can say, it's not my time, or we can say, nobody's helping me. I can't get the help I need. And a common thread for all of those thoughts is, is it points outside something else. I can't get the help I need.It's taking too long. It's harder than I thought. Well, it may be. Ask those Olympians. Heck, when I write books, they take longer than I want or than I thought.When I work in the recording studio and I point over there because that's where it is through that wall. The songs take longer than I want to record and to mix and to master and, you know, to produce.Heck, even every time I have a distributor in Europe that handles worldwide distribution, and every time I go to upload a new batch of songs, I usually do three at a time. I remark, I have forgotten how complicated this is to upload them.You know, the numbers, the is the barcodes that you get for distribution and for royalty collection and the pictures you have to have and the album covers and precise, you know, pixel dimensions and all this stuff. And every time I do it, it's like, oh, man, I forgot how much was involved in this, this process.And so it takes two or three days longer than I want. I'll have it up tomorrow. No, how about three days from now? Every time? And I know that.And still in the valley between vision and arrival, there is discouragement and there is a need for patience. There is a need to remind myself and you. So I want this episode today to be full of love and encouragement.I want to acknowledge your own vision, your own awesome, staggering vision that you saw on that beautiful mountain. And then you said, I'm going to build this. I'm going to change the world. I'm going to help people do whatever it is.And that vision is pure and it's sacred, and it's driven by your divine nature and your life experience.And when that happens, every time we have to descend into the valley of work, descend into the valley of construction, descend into the basement that we're putting down, the pillars and the foundation and the structure that's going to hold up that vision. And remember, the bigger it is, the deeper and more extensive the foundation.That process always takes longer than we wish, than we want, and even than we plan. Always. The important part is for you to remember your divinity. Remember the feeling, create a method. And this is the key.So this is the magic for this episode.I have created a process for me that no matter how deep the valley is, how slow it seems to be going, how much longer it is than I wished, I never ask anymore, am I doing the right thing? I never ask, am I? Did I do something wrong? I don't. Because. And I will share this process with you. Reach out to me.Kellenfluecigermedia.com with the contact form. I will share it, because this process works every single day. And it's not something like an antibiotic When I get an infection, I go take it.I use it every single day because every single day it gives me the power, the excitement, the energy, and the love to just keep moving. And that's the key. Because if you keep moving, you're gonna get to your realization. You're gonna get to your arrival. Your vision is sacred.Your work is sacred, and I'd love to help you. The valley between vision and arrival is not failure. It is construction. The question isn't the one we love to ask, why isn't it here yet?You know what the question is? Will I keep building until I get there, even while it's still invisible? Am I going to keep after it while it's hard? That's the secret.That's the key that every profound builder has mastered to get to the final vision. Faith gets tested most of all by timing. I want to issue you three invitations. First, I want you to know that I love you and I believe in you.Second, if you have a story to tell about your own journey, I'd love to feature you on the show. Kellenflukermedia.com reach out to me with the contact form and tell me you have a story to share on the show.The podcast third is if you know someone who has a story to share, share it with them. I love to feature be the amplifier for your stories, your vision, your tools, and your processes. And that's exciting for me.And last of all, if you've already. If you have a story, like I said, you've already done this. I want to share it. And if you're struggling, you can have this tool.So reach out to me so that together we can keep doing the good we mean to do and want to do. And that way, together we can build and you can certainly have your ultimate life. Never hold back and you'll never ask why.Open your heart right here, right now. 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