The Empathy Warrior: How a 4-Time World Champion Turns Trauma Into Triumph

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Meet Stuart Wade—a champion fighter who transformed his own trauma into a mission to heal others. In this powerful conversation, Stuart reveals how he went from being a "hurt person who hurt people" to becoming a mind coach who helps others break through their deepest psychological barriers.
You'll discover:
• Why "hurt people hurt people"—and how to break that cycle
• The neurological techniques that reprogram trauma responses
• How breathing can instantly calm your nervous system
• Why Stuart believes "everyone is good deep down" (and the science behind it)
• The mindset shift that turns obstacles into opportunities
• How to access your "success gear" without waiting for crisis
Stuart combines his championship discipline with clinical training in hypnotherapy, EMDR, and NLP to create breakthrough transformations. His unique approach bridges the gap between mental toughness and emotional intelligence.
This isn't just another success story—it's a blueprint for turning your deepest wounds into your greatest strengths.
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00:00 - Untitled
00:00 - The Journey of Martial Arts
01:11 - The Power of Empathy: A Journey of Healing and Service
14:19 - Resilience and Overcoming Challenges
20:44 - Meeting Them Where They Are
27:14 - Beginning the Journey of Breathwork
35:55 - The Journey of Overcoming Limiting Beliefs
Starting martial arts.
Speaker AThat's.
Speaker AThat's where it started for me when I was six years old.
Speaker BWelcome to the show.
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Speaker BWelcome to this episode of youf Ultimate Life, the podcast dedicated to helping you create a life of purpose, prosperity, and joy that you absolutely love to wake up to every day.
Speaker BI've got a special guest today, Stuart Wade.
Speaker BStuart, welcome to the show.
Speaker AThank you for having me, Kellan.
Speaker AI appreciate it.
Speaker BOh, you're delightfully welcome.
Speaker BI'm glad to have you here and excited to dive into the stuff you're doing.
Speaker BI don't do introductions because that is unfolding all through the show, and other than that, it's just a bunch of jabber.
Speaker BSo let's just dive in.
Speaker BI asked you before we started, what is the most interesting, powerful gift you have to offer the world?
Speaker BAnd you said, empathy.
Speaker BWhat a cool answer.
Speaker BTell me why.
Speaker AYeah, so my gut instinct instantly told me empathy when you asked me that question.
Speaker AAnd I believe it is my story, it is my origin story that took me from starting martial arts.
Speaker AThat's.
Speaker AThat's where it started for me, when I was six years old, and through a lot of triumph, but also a lot of heartache, a lot of sadness, a lot of disappointment, a lot of difficulties, arguably some traumas.
Speaker AGoing through those things, overcoming them, and then eventually studying and learning from great mentors who helped me to understand what I'd been through, overcome it neurologically, subconsciously, and then empowering me to help others who've been through the same sort of thing.
Speaker AAnd I have always resonated with that phrase, hurt people, hurt people.
Speaker AAnd I want to change that because I've been one of those hurt people.
Speaker ABut I don't want to hurt people.
Speaker AI want to help people.
Speaker AI want to empower people.
Speaker ABut I deeply feel for people when they've been through struggles and difficulties, and I feel like it's my mission to help people around the world with that.
Speaker AAnd here we are today.
Speaker BSo that's a special gift because so many people have.
Speaker BEverybody has, you know, their own list of traumas and struggles.
Speaker BRight.
Speaker BEverybody feels like nobody knows the trouble I've seen, but Jesus, you know, everybody thinks their life is the worst of whatever, and it's probably true for them.
Speaker BAnd you.
Speaker BYou decided that after you overcame those things and got the help, you Needed, you decided you were going to set about helping others.
Speaker BI mean, you could have just said, I'm cool, I got it.
Speaker BBut you said, no, no, I feel called to help in that way.
Speaker BTell me about that.
Speaker AYeah, absolutely.
Speaker ASo I've always been quite a caring person, naturally, and I definitely attribute a lot of that to my upbringing from my parents, my family.
Speaker AWe have been a bit of a typical British family in some ways, the stiff upper lip and that kind of thing.
Speaker ABut there was always a lot of care and a lot of love there.
Speaker AAnd it was visceral.
Speaker AYou felt it.
Speaker AAnd so I think having that instilled in me from a young age really laid the foundations for this.
Speaker AAnd so when I've been through difficulties that I've been through, seeing others going through that around the same time, even afterwards, I've always felt for them.
Speaker AI've always wanted to help where I can.
Speaker AAnd so, as by chance would happen, meeting certain mentors and getting the help that I needed with at the time, it was clinical hypnotherapy that I received a number of years ago.
Speaker ANow, getting that help actually provided the vehicle for me with which I could help people.
Speaker ABecause it's one thing being a supporting person, just being there as a shoulder to cry on, or being just there to listen and be a sounding board, but I feel called to do more.
Speaker AAnd learning clinical hypnotherapy and the various other modalities that I've been trained in over the years through different mentors, that gives me the vehicle to really help people at a deep level and help them to overcome whatever they are going through.
Speaker AAnd I love that.
Speaker AI really love that.
Speaker AIt's a real joy for me.
Speaker BYou know, that's interesting because one of the ways I describe that feeling is that we literally, physiologically, we're built to love and serve, and people ascribe it to survival and a bunch of other things.
Speaker BBut when we're in the mode of helping and in community and, you know, we have more oxytocin, serotonin, dopamine, we have these good things, things that feel in us.
Speaker BAnd you know what else I think?
Speaker BI mean, we all know that there's two parts to us.
Speaker BThere's a physical part and there's an energetic or spiritual part.
Speaker BAnd I think there's some kind of parallel neurotransmitters in the spirit.
Speaker BYou know, we don't know their names, but because it just feels juicy, it feels fun to see someone succeed and to love and serve.
Speaker BAnd, you know, some people have Lived with difficulties and they beat that feeling out of themselves or allowed circumstance.
Speaker BBut the truth of our natures is we are literally built to love and serve.
Speaker BSo I love that you said with emphasis, I'm called to do that.
Speaker BTell me about that calling.
Speaker BLike you're going to have empathy for people's struggle.
Speaker BAre you trying to help ten people?
Speaker BA thousand?
Speaker BA million?
Speaker BLike, what is your.
Speaker BIf you picture the world after Stuart has spread the blanket of empathy, what does it look like?
Speaker ATotally different.
Speaker BTell me, tell me something.
Speaker AYeah, yeah.
Speaker ASo I genuinely believe that when we can get over the competition aspect and the kind of tribal programming that we often have as human beings and we can actually see that collaboration and teamwork will help us to go further together as a species and solve some of the difficulties that we're experiencing in the world right now and some of the things that may be on the horizon.
Speaker AI truly think that every single life on the planet could be changed with that.
Speaker AAnd it's not necessarily that I'm going to be working with every single person individually to do that, but it's helping the people that can make the change, Working with those people who have the power to change the course of history and filter it from the top down.
Speaker ABecause I truly believe that most people are good, everybody is good deep down and we just got to tap into that and remind each other what it's all about.
Speaker BYeah, wonderful.
Speaker BSo there's some really interesting and I would argue really powerful things that you've said there.
Speaker BI believe deep down everybody is good.
Speaker BThere would be people that would challenge that.
Speaker BThere would be people that say, no, we're basically animals.
Speaker BGreedy.
Speaker BI got mine.
Speaker BScrew you and your dog.
Speaker BThat, that, you know, that, that people would argue that and because their life experience has taught them that.
Speaker BAnd you are saying, yeah, I acknowledge all that.
Speaker BBut I still believe that if we can tap into the right, we use some woo woo words here, tap into the right frequency or vibration or whatever it is and, you know, come to our true selves and all that crap that we say, and it's not crap, but it sounds like it sometimes that, that, that we can actually and really make some fundamental changes.
Speaker BDo you believe that?
Speaker AI really do.
Speaker AYeah, I really do.
Speaker BHow does that manifest?
Speaker BSo I see before me a wonderful, empathetic, powerful man who's gone through his own changes and has made it his mission to help.
Speaker BHow do you think we can.
Speaker BHow do you go about activating that belief that people are basically good and you're looking for influencers and people with Positions to do two things.
Speaker BOne, to accept and resonate with the truth you just proclaimed, because they have to believe it, too, and then to do something with that.
Speaker BHow do you do that?
Speaker AIt's a really good question, Kellen.
Speaker AAnd I think that spreading positive messages like you do on this show with the guests that you have genuinely is what, one of the best ways, because it, it can reach everybody.
Speaker AYou know, as long as you have access to the Internet and you can, you can download a podcast, you have access to a wealth of information and a wealth of brilliant people who can shift perspectives.
Speaker AAnd so messaging like that on platforms like this, and I'm not trying to blow smoke, I'm genuinely, I think, I think that is, is the way to reach millions and millions of people.
Speaker AAnd I know that's your mission as well, so I think it's brilliant.
Speaker BWell, I do.
Speaker BI mean, you know, and my listeners know my mission this year.
Speaker BNot even a mission commitment.
Speaker BAnd my year ends in two months, 14th of October.
Speaker BAnd I don't think you've.
Speaker BI've ever told you the story about why that is, but it doesn't matter.
Speaker BNew Year's is October 14, but to reach 300 million people this year, and you are part of that.
Speaker BNot just you, but everybody that you'll share this with, because it isn't just my message.
Speaker BIt's your message of empathy, positivity, possibility.
Speaker BThe message that deep down everybody's good.
Speaker BThe message that no matter what you've been through, there's a way through it.
Speaker BAnd you have developed mastery at certain tools, hypnotherapy, and you didn't tell me the others, but it doesn't matter.
Speaker BA slate of modalities that you apply in circumstances to give people the vision and the opportunity to see what could be.
Speaker BAnd together we're going to do that.
Speaker BWe are going to change the world.
Speaker BSo I can't help but notice the great slate of trophies on the shelf behind your head.
Speaker BAnd I don't think it's an accident that you are positioned there as we do this interview.
Speaker BSo tell me about those things.
Speaker BWhat does that represent in your life?
Speaker ASo those are a great reminder for me of what one can do when one puts your mind to it.
Speaker AAnd they are, they are from my martial arts career.
Speaker AI am grateful to have had a lot of success.
Speaker AWhen I first started training at six years old, I. I loved the training.
Speaker AI really resonated with learning the techniques, and I enjoyed going through the belt system and all of that kind of stuff.
Speaker ABut at the Time.
Speaker AI hated the competition aspect of it.
Speaker AAnd as a result, I didn't have a lot of success very early on.
Speaker ABut it was only when I overcame some difficulties early on.
Speaker AI failed my black belt grading at the first time of asking, which was just before my ninth birthday.
Speaker AAnd this is a slight digression, but I was told by my instructors that I would walk it.
Speaker AAnd so of course I took that to heart.
Speaker AI thought, well, it's a, it's a shoo in.
Speaker AI'm going to get this.
Speaker AAt almost nine years old.
Speaker AAnd it transpired that the grading panel that day were particularly harsh.
Speaker AAnd it was comprised of 10 Korean masters and grandmasters.
Speaker AThey'd flown in to the UK for the grading from Korea.
Speaker AAnd there was around 300 or so students testing from all over the country.
Speaker AAnd around 30 to 40 students were going from my hometown.
Speaker AOf those 30 to 40 students, three passed.
Speaker BWow.
Speaker AAll the rest failed.
Speaker AAnd I was, I was one of the ones that failed.
Speaker AAnd the way that they did that I believe again was particularly harsh because at the close of the grading, when they were announcing the results, everybody was sat cross legged on the hard flooring, in straight rows, straight backs, good posture, silence.
Speaker AAnd the spokesperson for the panel would read your name if you passed, and they would skip you if you failed.
Speaker AAnd so they went along the rows student by student.
Speaker AAnd so the student to my right, his name was read.
Speaker AAnd so I knew that mine was going to be next.
Speaker AAnd it wasn't.
Speaker AIt was the person to.
Speaker AI left and so they skipped me.
Speaker AAnd in that moment I was heartbroken, absolutely heartbroken, because I traveled down almost to London on my own, without my parents, without my family, just with the other students.
Speaker AAnd so that was the moment for me that really sparked some resilience because once I'd gotten over that initial heartache, I never wanted to feel that again.
Speaker AAnd I tested again a few weeks later.
Speaker ASorry, a few months later, about three months later.
Speaker AAnd I passed at that point.
Speaker AAnd I specifically remember seeing a student who I was familiar with that failed that day.
Speaker AAnd I even remember to this day consoling him at that time, because I'd been there a few months prior.
Speaker AAnd I knew that if I could just give some encouragement in that moment, it would help him on his next upgrading and hopefully beyond.
Speaker AAnd so getting back to the competition side, once that resilience and motivation to succeed was sparked within me, I started having more success competitively.
Speaker AAnd from the age of 13, pretty much every year until I stepped away from Competition in my mid-20s, I represented Great Britain or England in major internationals every single year.
Speaker AAnd I'm very blessed to have won four World Championships, three European Championships, and 20 British Championships throughout my time competing.
Speaker AAnd so this shelf behind me is a reminder to what I can do when I put my mind to it, and that resilience to overcome challenges.
Speaker AThings aren't always going to go the way that we want them to, but if we want it badly enough, the how will figure itself out.
Speaker AWe'll find a way.
Speaker BSo I love that last sentence.
Speaker BThe how will figure itself out.
Speaker BI was in a mastermind many years ago for several years with someone who's retired now, but some.
Speaker BMany call him the godfather of coaching.
Speaker BSteve Chandler, who's written like 40 books and helped with the University of Santa Monica Masters in Spiritual Psychology program and all this stuff.
Speaker BBut anyway, his way of saying that was when that want to gets big enough, the how to just shows up.
Speaker AYou know, I like that.
Speaker BAnd that's what you just said, and I love it.
Speaker BAnd Steve is a great big, tall guy.
Speaker BHe's a big, big.
Speaker BWell, I don't know, six, four or five, whatever.
Speaker BAnd he's big, and he's so deadpan.
Speaker BHe is so funny.
Speaker BAccidentally funny, right?
Speaker BBut anyway, so I love that the how to.
Speaker BNow, that's a wonderful and inspiring story.
Speaker BAnd as you work with people with your empathy and your ability to understand, like you've consoled that other fellow.
Speaker AHow.
Speaker BDifficult is it to get people to see, to internalize and own the truth that whatever their struggle is, that it is also true that when the want to gets big enough, the house shows up or that you can create whatever you want to, if you want to go work at it, or if you won't give up, or if you get the right help or mentors and you know, all the stuff that we say as coaches, because it's so easy for people to say, yeah, but.
Speaker BYeah, but it doesn't count.
Speaker BYeah, but that's different.
Speaker BYeah, but I'm special.
Speaker BYeah, but you don't understand.
Speaker BYeah, but Yebbit.
Speaker BYeah, but it reminds me of Bugs Bunny.
Speaker BWebbit, Webbit, Webbit.
Speaker BRight, so.
Speaker BAnd anybody that's old enough to remember Elmer Fudd, you know that.
Speaker BBut so what?
Speaker BHow hard is it to get people to slow down enough and to bodily internalize that truth?
Speaker AIt's a good question.
Speaker AAnd oftentimes it's individual.
Speaker AYou know, one person will have a different switch than another.
Speaker ABut I found that letting them air out whatever their story is and then meeting them where they are and metaphorically taking them by the hand to just challenge some of those limiting beliefs in an empathetic way with concern, with care, just get them to challenge some of those things to see if that narrative is actually true.
Speaker AThen if there's willing there, then we can start to unravel these things and, and figure out what the deep burning reason why is that they want a different outcome.
Speaker ABecause if they've come to me in the first place, there's an inkling at the very least that they want something different.
Speaker BYeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker BSo there is.
Speaker BAnd I love that you said meet them where they are and that's another coachee type buzz phrase that we use.
Speaker BWhat does that mean?
Speaker ASo if a client comes to me and tells me why everything in their life is crap and nothing's working out, it won't work for them for XYZ reason, I would say, yeah, I can see that.
Speaker AI can really feel that for you.
Speaker AAnd it's tough.
Speaker AIt's a real tough situation.
Speaker AAnd if they are using colorful language, I might meet them there with that as well and throw a few more colorful terms in there as well.
Speaker ABecause at least then I'm acknowledging their pain, I'm acknowledging what they're going through and that makes them feel seen and heard.
Speaker AAnd so then automatically that builds that rapport with, with what I'm saying and they are going to hold my thoughts, my words, in a little bit higher esteem.
Speaker AThat that brick wall that they've built up is just going to start to come down.
Speaker AThey're going to take some bricks off there and start to just let some of my words in at that point.
Speaker ABut it does start with acknowledging that.
Speaker ABecause if I was to go in, say no, don't be silly, it's not all bad.
Speaker ANo, it's not going to jive with them.
Speaker AThey're just going to be completely ignorant to that because it's so different to the narrative that they've told themselves.
Speaker ASo that's what it means to me.
Speaker AMeet them where they are.
Speaker AAcknowledge that they're seen, they're heard.
Speaker AOkay, now let's start to move things along.
Speaker ALet's start to change that a little bit.
Speaker BYou said two really important points.
Speaker BOne is the willingness, you know what medical professionals say, and show all the time that the biggest determining factor for someone healing even from serious and life threatening illnesses is their desire to live.
Speaker BI want it.
Speaker BI want it.
Speaker BAnd fanning the flame of want to is such an important part of what you do and your ability to reach people.
Speaker BAnd the second Thing besides that want to is meeting them where they are.
Speaker BI think of that in terms of listening, how we listen to them.
Speaker BAnd listening is such an underdeveloped skill because we spend our time, it seems to me, listening with the idea of how we're even if we're trying to help.
Speaker BExcuse me.
Speaker BOkay, I hear you and here's what I'm going to say.
Speaker BAnd oh, I've got all this cool stuff lined up and I'm just going to blow you away with all this amazing stuff.
Speaker BAnd instead what I found is what you've said.
Speaker BIf I listen with nothing in mind except just to be with you and hear you, and then it might take some space after you're done talking, before I even have anything to say, because half my mind hasn't been busy concocting that.
Speaker BThe energy of that kind of listening is what creates that connection.
Speaker BBecause somebody can feel right away when you're even 2/3 there.
Speaker BAnd so you've captured something that I want to restate because I agree with it so much that our willingness and that has to do with vulnerability because we sometimes have the idea we're supposed to, quote, know some kind of an answer, whatever.
Speaker BIf we dump that whole idea, we're just there to hear you and then we think with you together.
Speaker BWell, I don't know.
Speaker BBut what about this from the same place that we were with them in listening.
Speaker BThat's kind of a convoluted thought.
Speaker BBut did you.
Speaker BDoes how does that land with you in terms of how you work and what you believe?
Speaker AYeah, that makes total sense to me.
Speaker AAnd it really resonates because that is what I strive to do with my clients.
Speaker AYeah.
Speaker BSo I'm going to take strive away from you.
Speaker BThat is what you do.
Speaker BIt is who you are.
Speaker BAnd I want you to talk for a minute about how you create yourself so that you are that.
Speaker BSo that that becomes how you show up.
Speaker BBecause in the world of so much pressure and noise and news and competition and all the stuff you talked about earlier, it takes an intentional, focused effort to choose to be that.
Speaker BSo how do you do that amidst all the noisiness of life?
Speaker ASo I'll bring this back to martial arts a little bit because predominantly when I was either in a grading or in a competition side of the martial arts, I would be fully focused, I would be fully zoned in and present in the moment that there was no thoughts going on about something that happened back then or something that may happen.
Speaker AI'm not worried about what other people are thinking.
Speaker AI'M just fully present in the moment, in my mind and body, doing what I need to do in the moment.
Speaker AAnd when I'm working with someone, it's exactly the same.
Speaker AI'm fully present in the moment.
Speaker AI'm not concerned about anything outside of what's going on between the two of us at that time.
Speaker AI like to ground myself, first of all, and take some deep breaths, just to give myself some space and some separation from the noise and all of the demands that go on outside of delivering a session.
Speaker AAnd once I've given myself that space, I allow myself to just become fully present, and then I can direct that present energy towards my client.
Speaker AAnd that's how, again, I can meet them where they are without any preconceived ideas, without any agendas going in, without some protocol that I want them to try.
Speaker AI'm just there.
Speaker AAnd that enables me to listen and to empathize deeply with them.
Speaker AAnd then we figure it out from there.
Speaker BAnd then we figure it out from there.
Speaker BI love that.
Speaker BHow important.
Speaker BLike, people are going to listen to this and they're going to think whatever they think.
Speaker BBut I want you to give some instruction, as it were, right now, about how people can do some of that separation, because my experience is that most people don't know how to do that.
Speaker BWhen I talk to people about being still or stillness or being present or meditation or however we want to describe that thing, they're like, yeah, my mind's too busy.
Speaker BI don't have time.
Speaker B5 minutes, 20 minutes.
Speaker BAre you out of your mind?
Speaker BYou know, they sort of are responding from the place of overwhelm and busyness.
Speaker BAnd you've now told me that that's what you do.
Speaker BSo you have developed a practice of creating space to allow you to be.
Speaker BTo give that unbelievable gift of presence and listening.
Speaker BI want you to teach us here for a minute, some things about how to do that.
Speaker BSo Joe or Jane or Barbara or Bill or whoever's listening right now, and they may be wondering about that.
Speaker BSo even for forget being coaches or anything, just managing life, talk to me about how to help someone do that right now.
Speaker AOne of, if not the simplest technique that I ever learned to calm my mind, calm my body, and become more centered, grounded, and present is a breathing technique called the physiological sigh.
Speaker AAnd I'm sure that some of your listeners may have heard of that.
Speaker AIt's.
Speaker AIt's a neuroscience practice that I've heard some prominent neuroscientists talk about.
Speaker AAnd since I adopted that a few years ago when I first learned about it.
Speaker AIt's been an absolute game changer for me personally and the clients that I teach it to.
Speaker AAnd so what I recommend that they do is just sit comfortably.
Speaker AYou could do it standing, but it's helpful to sit and just get comfortable.
Speaker AFirst of all, if you want to close your eyes, you can.
Speaker AYou don't have to.
Speaker AIt doesn't matter really.
Speaker AAnd the process is a double inhale through the nose and then a slow exhale through the mouth.
Speaker ANow, when I'll get a little bit sciency here, but when we do a full intake of breath, not every alveoli in our lungs inflates, because it doesn't need to.
Speaker AOur bodies don't.
Speaker AOr rather our bodies keep in reserve some space at times.
Speaker AWe don't use every single muscle fiber when we're doing a bicep curl at the gym unless we're trying to max out.
Speaker AAnd even then we still have some in reserve.
Speaker AIt's the same thing.
Speaker AAnd so our body will inflate as many alveoli as it needs to when we inhale.
Speaker ABut then when we force another inhale, we get some extra oxygen in there, we force extra alveoli to inflate.
Speaker ANow what that does is gives more oxygen to attach to our red blood cells, which will then filter out into our body and our minds, our brains rather.
Speaker ABut then when we slowly exhale through the mouth, that is telling our parasympathetic nervous system, which is also known as the rest and digest nervous system, that we're safe, we can relax, it's calm.
Speaker AWe don't need to be anywhere.
Speaker AWe're not getting chased by a saber toothed tiger right now.
Speaker AWe can just relax.
Speaker AAnd it's an automatic subconscious signal.
Speaker AA slow exhale of breath like that tells that part of our nervous system that we're relaxed.
Speaker ANow, I recommend that people do this for maybe five breaths.
Speaker ADo it in a cyclical fashion.
Speaker AIf you do it just once, you will feel noticeably calmer.
Speaker ADo it five times, it'll take you 90 seconds maybe, depending on how big your lung capacity is.
Speaker AAnd you will feel instantly calmer if you instantly more grounded, more centered and more present.
Speaker AAnd so it looks like this.
Speaker ASo I would go, that's one.
Speaker ASo I would do that five times.
Speaker AAnd I would guarantee that after doing that, you feel calmer, there's less intrusive thoughts, you feel more relaxed, more present.
Speaker AAnd I haven't come across anybody that I've shown that to that it doesn't work with.
Speaker ASo that would be Number one.
Speaker BWell, that's fabulous.
Speaker BAnd so I absolutely recommend that you do that because I spoke with Stuart several weeks ago and I think he showed me that and I did it and tried it.
Speaker BAnd breathwork in general, the category of breathwork, you know, Wim Hof and Joe Dorkstick and whoever, all have different breathing techniques.
Speaker BAnd guess what?
Speaker BThey all work and they all do good stuff.
Speaker BAnd so the one Stuart has just gifted, you do that.
Speaker BDon't say, oh, that's cool.
Speaker BI'd try that sometime because that won't help you because you're going to forget.
Speaker BAnd so do that now, a deep inhale.
Speaker BAnd then you saw him do that forced pull, second breath in.
Speaker BAnd I love the scientific description about blowing up a few more blobs of someone who had a fatal lung infection who lost staggering lung capacity a few years ago.
Speaker BI have done a lot of work to do that.
Speaker BAnd I can tell you how important what you've said and your emphasis on breathing.
Speaker BBreath is life.
Speaker BBreath is life.
Speaker BAnd so I love that.
Speaker BThank you for sharing that with us.
Speaker AYou're welcome.
Speaker BAll right, so I'm going to go in a different direction now.
Speaker BTell me about your coaching work.
Speaker BLike, who do you work with?
Speaker BWhat kinds of people come to you?
Speaker BWhere are they?
Speaker BWhat kind of things do you address?
Speaker BAnd you mentioned hypnosis.
Speaker BMaybe you'll throw in a couple of other modalities that you use if it's appropriate.
Speaker BBut tell me about the work, and here's the context.
Speaker BThe way I usually ask this question is tell me how Stuart adds good to the world.
Speaker BAnd I'm going to bound that just by saying there may be a million ways, but right now, in the context of the offering that you have to the world because of your training, because of your martial arts work, because of the discipline that you have applied across the board.
Speaker BHow do you do that?
Speaker BWhat do you do?
Speaker ASo I typically work with business owners and athletes.
Speaker AGenerally speaking, those are the people that I work with.
Speaker AThat said, I do have the odd client now and again that doesn't fit into those demographics.
Speaker ABut they're struggling and they resonate with me, my messaging, and they feel that I'm the right person to help them.
Speaker AAnd so if that is reciprocated, then I take on those people as well.
Speaker ABut generally speaking, it's the business owner who's stressed.
Speaker AThey're working every hour that God sends and they're at a ceiling.
Speaker AThey just can't seem to figure out a way to continue on the path that they're on.
Speaker ABecause they want to grow the business, they want to excel.
Speaker AThey've probably got stuff psychologically, emotionally, maybe even physically holding them back as well.
Speaker AAnd so they're the spinning a bunch of plates while actually dealing with stuff that maybe no one else knows about as well.
Speaker ASo I help them to overcome whatever those things are, whether it is a traumatic experience or something that happened at a certain point in their lives that created some kind of limiting belief that they're not good enough.
Speaker AThey'll never achieve the heights that someone else has.
Speaker AIt's not for them.
Speaker AWhatever the internal narrative may be.
Speaker AAnd that subconscious wiring is holding them back from achieving more.
Speaker AIt's holding them back from overcoming whatever it is that's been keeping them stuck.
Speaker AAnd so I meet them where they are.
Speaker AIf they have a trauma, then I do a particular technique with that, which is a development of emdr, which I'm sure some of your listeners will have heard of and I'm sure you know all about Kellen.
Speaker ASo I'm trained in emdr, but the technique that I use is a combination of EMDR with hypnotic suggestion.
Speaker ABecause with emdr, eye movement desensitization and reprocessing the act of eye fixation on a focal point.
Speaker AAs we move that focal point, that actually slows our brain waves down into the area in which hypnotic trance can become apparent.
Speaker AAnd so by utilizing the eye movements, not only are we processing neurologically the trauma and moving it from one side of the amygdala through the corpus callosum to the other side.
Speaker AAnd the logical and the creative hemispheres of the brain are processing that actively, but we're also then tapping in subconsciously by giving certain suggestions, certain ways of thinking, certain ways of feeling, and subsequently behaving.
Speaker ASo I would do that with someone who has some trauma that is hampering them, is holding them back from where they want to be.
Speaker AOnce we've resolved the trauma, or whatever the limiting belief or the negative story is, once we've resolved that subconsciously, then we start to focus on where they want to be in the future.
Speaker AWhat's that big vision?
Speaker ABecause as you and I both know, that if we're stuck in that fight or flight survival mindset, we can't think about the big vision.
Speaker AWe can't conceptualize what that is, because, like, I'm just trying to survive here and now.
Speaker AWho cares about that?
Speaker AAnd so once we've cleared that side of things, there's so much space now.
Speaker AThe mind is open up.
Speaker AWe fired and wired new neural pathways in the brain that actually will enable them to think, oh, actually I could have a big vision now, what's that going to look like?
Speaker AOkay.
Speaker AAnd so then we start to enhance that neurologically and subconsciously and really embody what that looks like for them so that they have a target then.
Speaker AAnd subconscious mind is a powerful thing.
Speaker AAnd once we've established where they want to go in their life, we're off to the races subconsciously because they're going to think, feel and behave differently in their day to day lives.
Speaker ASo that's how I work with people.
Speaker BI love that.
Speaker BIt's really interesting because I, I use a metaphor called break the cage and I, I picture people in a cage and cage has bars, right?
Speaker BAnd you can see and you can see that thing that you want, that vision, but the bars are in the way.
Speaker BAnd what you're telling me is with, you know, using that processing with the MDR and then getting them in alpha state where they can get auto suggestions and, or hypnotic suggestion and then reprogram it like it separates the bars, it takes the bars away and then they feel a freedom.
Speaker BThere actually isn't something in the way to start moving toward that thing before they were pressing up against the bars and reaching it.
Speaker BThey can't, you know, that kind of feeling.
Speaker BSo that's what went through my mind as you described that.
Speaker BSo I want you to tell people how to find out more about you.
Speaker BIf they've, if they've loved what you have, they've loved hearing your voice and your empathy.
Speaker BAnd if they want to find out more about Stuart, like I gotta have me some more Stuart.
Speaker BWhere do they go to to do that?
Speaker AWell, thank you for saying that, Kellen.
Speaker AI appreciate it.
Speaker ASo my website is themindcoach.co.uk.
Speaker Ai'm based in the UK.
Speaker AIt's all one word, there's no hyphens or underscores.
Speaker AThemindcoach.co.UK and social wise, I'm mostly on LinkedIn these days and my name on there is Stuart Wade.
Speaker AI'm sitting there in a suit in my profile picture so it'll be easy to spot.
Speaker AI'm also on Instagram and Facebook too.
Speaker AAgain, Stuart Wade on Facebook and then the Mind Coach UK on Instagram.
Speaker AThose are the best places to find me.
Speaker AAnd once, once we've communicated on there, we can communicate however's best.
Speaker BThank you.
Speaker BWhat didn't I ask you that you need to tell me and listeners.
Speaker AYou didn't ask me about the book that I'm going to be writing.
Speaker BI want to hear about the book you're writing.
Speaker ASo with your encouragement, which I really appreciate, I'm going to be writing a book I've co authored on another book previously called the Black Belt Mindset, which combines the martial arts, the mindset and the business.
Speaker AAnd that.
Speaker AThat was great.
Speaker AI loved that.
Speaker AI'm actually going to be co authoring another one with the same author too in the coming months.
Speaker ABut I'm going to be writing my own book soon and so it's going to be about about my story in more depth.
Speaker AMore of the nitty gritty details than that I could share in a short podcast like this, but lots of that, lots of inspiration with it and then practical tools that I've learned through my time in clinical hypnosis, emdr, nlp, all the stuff that I've studied and learned as well with the story element, but the practical guidance as well.
Speaker ASo that's going to be coming soon.
Speaker ASo watch this space.
Speaker BI can't wait.
Speaker BStuart, I want to thank you for sharing your heart, your empathy, your love, your passion and your desire to fix the world.
Speaker BThanks for being here.
Speaker AThank you, Kellen.
Speaker AI appreciate that.
Speaker AAnd thank you for having me hosting this podcast and facilitating because your empathy and your heart really shines through and I really appreciate you and all you do well.
Speaker BThanks.
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