The Power of Failure: Your Secret Weapon to Success
What if failure isn’t the enemy... but your greatest ally?
In this raw and powerful solo episode, Kellan Fluckiger reveals why failure isn’t something to avoid—it’s the very fuel of your transformation. Whether you're building a business, chasing a dream, or simply trying to live a more authentic life, this conversation will help you reframe failure, reclaim your confidence, and unlock your divine power to create the life you truly want.
💡 Key Takeaways:
- Why failure is not an indictment—but proof you’re growing.
- How to use failure as a learning tool, not a personal label.
- Two powerful strategies: “Get a coach” and “Notice & Choose.”
- How to shift from mediocrity and fear to creation and courage.
- Real stories from Kellan’s journey—including the 200 episodes he never released.
- The critical mindset: Fail fast. Fail forward. Fail with love.
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🗣️ "Failure is not a catastrophe—it’s a celebration."
00:00 - None
00:09 - Creating Your Ultimate Life
05:22 - The Power of Failure
09:19 - The Lessons of Failure
15:49 - Understanding Failure and Perseverance
21:38 - The Power of Coaching and Personal Growth
29:25 - Embracing Failure as a Learning Opportunity
31:08 - Embracing Failure as a Path to Success
Welcome to the show.
Speaker ATired of the hype about living a dream?
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Speaker AHello, welcome to this episode of youf Ultimate Life.
Speaker AI'm excited to have you here.
Speaker AThis podcast is my labor of love to help you create your ultimate life.
Speaker AA life of purpose, prosperity and joy, where you love every single day.
Speaker AYou get up excited and you lean into your life.
Speaker ACan you imagine that?
Speaker AMaybe you live that way already.
Speaker AAnd if you do, I'd love to talk to you.
Speaker ASo right now, first invitation.
Speaker AIf you're a person who gets up every single day and loves your life, you're excited.
Speaker AYou get up on fire with your heart ablaze with what you have to do, then I'm going to talk to you.
Speaker AAnd the reason I do, if you're willing, I'd love to.
Speaker ABecause I love knowing those people.
Speaker AAnd here's why.
Speaker ATwo reasons.
Speaker AOften when I talk like that, people react like, well, that's impossible.
Speaker AYou can't live that way.
Speaker AYou can't have a life where every day is exciting, joyful, powerful and creative.
Speaker ACan't have that.
Speaker ASo.
Speaker AAnd I do, and I love knowing others who do, because that just demonstrates for us and for others that it is possible.
Speaker AThe second reason, if you'd live that way, I really want to talk with you, is because almost without exception, people, you, me, who have learned how to live in joy every day with excitement and leaning into life and everything, when you've learned that, you have a story about how you got there, because so many, nearly everyone starts not feeling that way, feeling less than, not able to, you know, behind the eight ball, whatever feeling you want, not good enough.
Speaker AAnd then it's a process of learning.
Speaker ASo there's a story about how you got to a place where you love your life.
Speaker AAnd I love sharing those stories.
Speaker ASo if you're willing, go to kellenfluekegermedia.com here and get.
Speaker AUse a contact form and let's talk, because I'd love sharing your story.
Speaker AAnd maybe you want to be a guest on one of the shows here or on LA Talk Radio or in my television series.
Speaker AMaybe it would be valuable to share your message, your story, your journey of how you got to the place where you love your life every day.
Speaker ABecause the more of those stories you and me share, the better the world is.
Speaker AWe have influence.
Speaker AWe have power.
Speaker AWe have the ability to let people feel good about themselves.
Speaker AYeah, I can do that, too.
Speaker AAnd the more examples we have of that, the more likely it is if all we see around us is examples of failure, which is what we're going to talk about today, examples of frustration or negativity or can't be done or can't do it, can't make it.
Speaker AIf that's what we see tons of, then that's what we believe, because that's all we see.
Speaker ASo I love sharing examples.
Speaker ASo if you're a person who loves your life every day, let's talk.
Speaker AOne, I want to know you.
Speaker AAnd two, maybe you want to share your story on one of my programs.
Speaker AMost people do not live there.
Speaker AThey're not in a place where they just love life every day and they get up excited.
Speaker AI didn't used to be there.
Speaker AI got up and hated.
Speaker AHated getting up.
Speaker AGetting up was hard, was tired.
Speaker AI want to hit snooze a bunch of times and, you know, that sort of thing.
Speaker AGo back to bed.
Speaker AAnd when I did finally get up, it was with, I gotta do all this stuff today.
Speaker AI gotta, I gotta, I gotta.
Speaker AThat's not a recipe for fun.
Speaker AIt's not a recipe for joy, and it isn't really a recipe for success, because when we're feeling like that, we don't bring our best work forward, we don't bring our most creativity forward.
Speaker AAnd you already know that.
Speaker ASo that's a true thing.
Speaker AAnd this podcast is something that I do, and when I'm on other people's shows.
Speaker AI just recorded a podcast yesterday and I'm recording another one tomorrow.
Speaker AI always really honor podcast hosts, and the reason isn't because I am one, but I do because I know, because I am one.
Speaker AWhat a labor of love it is.
Speaker AIt's a lot of work, and it's a choice about how to add good to the world with the conversations you have or the guests you bring on, about how you can do something to lift and bless and serve.
Speaker ANow, I know there's some podcasts that are just conversations about whatever, and there's some that are negative, where we're looking to either push a narrative forward or have guests that are going to, you know, together.
Speaker AWe're going to commiserate and be mad at somebody.
Speaker AI don't participate in any of that, and I'm not about that.
Speaker AI certainly am pushing a narrative.
Speaker AAnd the narrative is, you're powerful.
Speaker AThe narrative is you're wonderful.
Speaker AThe narrative is you have infinite capability.
Speaker AThe narrative is, you're a divine being.
Speaker AThe narrative Is you create your life.
Speaker AWow.
Speaker AThink about that.
Speaker AYou create your life.
Speaker ASo do I.
Speaker AAnd that's despite all the stuff that happens around us that we didn't plan for.
Speaker ASo today I called failure the power of failure.
Speaker ANow, usually we look at failure and think it's a negative thing.
Speaker AI don't want to fail.
Speaker AI don't want to have failure.
Speaker AOh, yuck.
Speaker AToday, I want to talk about the power of failure.
Speaker AAnd I don't mean the power of failure to wreck your life or wreck your attitude or your mood or your plans or your good fortune or anything else.
Speaker AI'm talking about the power of failure.
Speaker ASo this little background behind me says, failure is the power to success.
Speaker AAnd that is a true thing.
Speaker ANow, make no mistake, I know you and me, we can interpret failure as an indictment.
Speaker AMeans we're not good enough, we're stupid, we're wrong, we shouldn't be trying.
Speaker AWhatever it is, we're trying, but that's not what it is.
Speaker AFailure is very simple.
Speaker ALet's make a definition.
Speaker AFailure is just.
Speaker AI didn't get the outcome I wanted.
Speaker ASo whatever I did to try to get that outcome didn't work.
Speaker AAnd.
Speaker AAnd that's all it really means.
Speaker AIt didn't work.
Speaker AWe put the word failure on it.
Speaker AAnd that failure has a sound and a feeling and a reputation and a stigma, like it's an indictment, like there's something wrong with you.
Speaker ANot a simple truth that what I tried didn't work.
Speaker ASo that's the first thing I want you to remember.
Speaker AFailure isn't anything except it didn't work.
Speaker AThat.
Speaker AThat doesn't work.
Speaker AOkay?
Speaker ASo remember that.
Speaker AThe second thing I want you to remember is that failure is a step on the road to progress.
Speaker ANow, Zig Ziglar, who's dead now, but many years ago, used to speak a lot.
Speaker AHe spoke a lot about sales and getting things done.
Speaker AAnd I think my wife belonged to several network marketing companies in many years ago and like 30 years ago, and Ziggler and others spoke at those.
Speaker AAnd, you know, one of the statements is every no is one step closer to a yes.
Speaker AEvery failure is simply one more step toward progress.
Speaker ASome say if you don't fail, you're not doing anything.
Speaker AMichael Jordan had a whole speech on that where he talked about how many shots he'd missed and how many times he'd been trusted with the game, winning shot and failed, et cetera, et cetera.
Speaker AAnd if you don't know that little speech, look it up.
Speaker AMichael Jordan on failure.
Speaker AGoogle that because it lists how Many times he missed this and that and the other.
Speaker AAnd the point in doing that wasn't to make anything negative about him.
Speaker AIt was to demonstrate that even Michael Jordan, you know, maybe the greatest, and some people argue for Kobe or LeBron, but someone that elevated failed zillions of times, and all of the success that they had was on the back of that failure.
Speaker ANow let's get it down to the rubber meets the road for you, Okay?
Speaker AI have failed.
Speaker AI can't even tell you how many times.
Speaker AI have given talks that went flat.
Speaker AI have given coaching sessions that didn't go like I wanted.
Speaker AI have launched products that didn't work very well.
Speaker AI have tried to perform piano pieces and made mistakes, made a mess, okay?
Speaker AAnd the list is endless.
Speaker AAnd you, you have your own list.
Speaker AMaybe you've tried to launch a business and it bombed.
Speaker AMaybe you've tried to launch 10 businesses and nine of them, or all of them bombed.
Speaker AThat doesn't matter.
Speaker AAll it means is that didn't work.
Speaker AAnd if we talk about what it actually means and we remember, it just means that didn't work.
Speaker AWhat else can we do?
Speaker ASo that's the rest of the question.
Speaker AThat didn't work.
Speaker AWhat else can we do?
Speaker AThe drama or the.
Speaker AThe barrier comes when we turn that, that didn't work into I suck, I'm stupid, I'll never make it.
Speaker AIt's.
Speaker AI'm wrong.
Speaker ASo that is an addition.
Speaker AFailure simply means it didn't work.
Speaker ASo let's talk about a couple of historical examples about people who failed.
Speaker AWe all know the story of Edison, and There were some 10,000 attempts to make an incandescent light bulb.
Speaker AAn incandescent light bulbs, the ones we used to have, we now, then we had fluorescent, and now we have LED and all these other things.
Speaker ABut the first light bulb was a bulb, you know, the kind we screwed in and got.
Speaker AThat got really hot.
Speaker AAnd it was a filament.
Speaker ASo electricity wires came up the, you know, each side of the plug and went inside the light bulb, and there was a tiny thin wire wrapped in a coil in between them.
Speaker AAnd that's how light bulbs work.
Speaker AAnd you probably already know that.
Speaker AAnd when the two wires were connected or you turned on a switch, electricity went through that little tiny thin wire.
Speaker AAnd because it was a thin wire was way too much electricity for the wire.
Speaker ANot too much, but it got hot.
Speaker AAnd when it got hot, it glowed.
Speaker AAnd that's what created the light.
Speaker AAll of the other times before his 10,001, I guess the filament burned up really quickly.
Speaker APop.
Speaker ALike, you remember when light bulbs burned out, you would take them, unscrew them, take them out, and you'd shake them.
Speaker AAnd you could hear that little rattle in there.
Speaker AAnd that meant the filament that little thing had burned was sitting in the bulb.
Speaker AAnd you knew it was bad, so you threw it away, put in another one.
Speaker AThe secret to getting it done was, you know, how big, how thick does the filament be, need to be?
Speaker AHow many coils were there in there?
Speaker AAnd one of the main things is, what is the gas that you put in the light bulb?
Speaker ABecause for a long time they just put air in there, and air has oxygen in it, and oxygen causes metal to burn.
Speaker AAnd so the air caused the filaments to burn immediately.
Speaker AAnd every time he'd plug the light bulb in, pop.
Speaker AThey'd burn right away.
Speaker AFinally, he ended up filling them with argon gas, which doesn't burn and doesn't support combustion.
Speaker AAnd that was one of the big secrets to make it work.
Speaker ASo all those other times were just not working.
Speaker AAnd finally he tried enough different things that he found one that worked.
Speaker AYou know that example, a couple others you probably have heard.
Speaker AJ.K.
Speaker Arowling, who wrote the wildly successful Harry Potter books and all the movies that came with it, was on welfare and submitted the manuscript to a gazillion.
Speaker AAnd I'm saying a gazillion because I don't remember the number, but a gazillion publishers.
Speaker ANo, no, no, no, no, no, no.
Speaker AThis sucks.
Speaker AYou can't write.
Speaker ANo way.
Speaker AUntil eventually it turned into the worldwide hit, worldwide franchise.
Speaker AEight movies.
Speaker AAnd then the more, you know, the Dumbledore movies or the Salamander movies or whatever they were.
Speaker AI loved them all, by the way.
Speaker AI just can't remember the names right now.
Speaker ASo at least a dozen movies in an enormous global franchise that's made her a zillionaire and was massive success.
Speaker AThe third one is another one you probably know, and that's Walt Disney.
Speaker AYou know, his idea about creating the thing that eventually became Disneyland and the whole Disney franchise was met with all kinds of.
Speaker ANo, no, no.
Speaker AWho knows how many times because of his perseverance, it finally got done.
Speaker AWhat example do you know right now in your life, maybe you in somewhere where you were facing this terrible problem and you failed and you failed and you failed and you failed and you failed and then you finally succeeded.
Speaker ADo you have an example like that?
Speaker AIf you do, I'd love to hear it.
Speaker APut it in the comments below.
Speaker ATell me your story.
Speaker AThat's another kind of story that I want.
Speaker ASo in the beginning, I ask anyone that's listening that lives that ultimate life where they.
Speaker AWhere you're living in joy every day to get a hold of me, because I want to share your story and I want to know you.
Speaker AHere's another invitation.
Speaker AIf you have a story where you failed and failed and failed and failed, and then you finally succeeded, I want to share that story, too.
Speaker AAnd there's two reasons.
Speaker AOne, you.
Speaker AI want to honor you for having the perseverance to stick with it.
Speaker AThat's a rare quality.
Speaker AMost people settle for mediocrity.
Speaker AThey just settle for mediocrity.
Speaker AOh, it's not my season.
Speaker AI can't do this.
Speaker ANot going to work.
Speaker AYou know, that kind of thought.
Speaker AAnd they give up, quit trying.
Speaker ASo I want to honor you for having the courage to keep going and keep going.
Speaker AThe second thing I want is I want to share your story, because I want to have another example of someone who's toughed it out, who had the perseverance to treat failure as a power failure, as a launch pad failure, as I call it, an idp.
Speaker AInteresting data point.
Speaker AOkay, it's not important except to know this didn't work.
Speaker AThis podcast right now wasn't my first one.
Speaker AI did one.
Speaker AI did 200 episodes of another one.
Speaker AAnd it was about the book.
Speaker AOne of the books that I have, you now know, I have 20, and I'm writing number 21.
Speaker ABut one of the books I wrote is called Tightrope of Depression, and it detailed my story from young up to 2007, when my life radically changed.
Speaker AAnd I started a podcast called Tightrope Tales, and it focused on, you know, the negative things and the struggles that had gone on for years.
Speaker AAnd, you know, I gave examples and things in each episode, and I just.
Speaker AIt bombed.
Speaker AI didn't even ever publish it.
Speaker AI had, like, 200 episodes ready to go.
Speaker AAnd the more I looked at it, the more I thought, I don't want this to be.
Speaker AWhat I share is the struggles without the victory, without the assurance of possibility.
Speaker ASo I have 200 episodes I've never shared, and I'm not going to.
Speaker AAnd the reason isn't because they're not true.
Speaker AThey are true, and they're powerful stories.
Speaker ABut my focus is on elevating you.
Speaker AAnd so while I sometimes talk about failures and sometimes I've told my own stories and history of failure and stuff, it is always in the context of.
Speaker AAnd then we kept going, and then we got there.
Speaker AThat'd be like talking about a trip where you're driving and the only thing you do is talk about getting a flat tire or two flat tires or stuck in the desert and you end it there.
Speaker AYou know, you're done.
Speaker AOkay?
Speaker AWe were stuck in the desert forever instead of finishing the story.
Speaker AAnd it took 12 hours.
Speaker AAnd finally somebody came or we walked to the gas station or whatever.
Speaker AYou know, you got done, you got there, you got help, you made it.
Speaker AThat's the important part of the story.
Speaker ABecause we all know in our own lives, times when we've just given up, given up, given up, given up.
Speaker AAnd that's not fun.
Speaker ANobody writes books about that.
Speaker AThat's not interesting.
Speaker AWhat we love to go see in the movies is the tough stuff and then, ah, the victory, right?
Speaker AThat's what we love.
Speaker AThat's what we want.
Speaker AWe want to share and feel those victories.
Speaker AAll right, so I've given you a couple of historical examples and we've talked about failure just being an interesting data point.
Speaker AWhat I'd like you to do is think about how you personally feel about failure.
Speaker AFor a long time, I lived with the idea.
Speaker AI called it N.G.E.
Speaker Ai'm just not good enough.
Speaker AThat was kind of this vague idea in my head.
Speaker AI'm not good enough to make a lot of money.
Speaker AI'm not good enough to have the kind of life I want.
Speaker AI'm not good enough to have my music, you know, be widespread and be successful.
Speaker AI'm not good enough to.
Speaker AAnd fill in the blank that was made worse as I grew older with, you know, I had some failed relationships.
Speaker AI struggled for decades with depression.
Speaker AAnd one of the.
Speaker AOne of the fuel sources for my depression is I took every single failure, meaning it didn't happen the way I wanted.
Speaker AI took every single failure as a massive indictment of me personally.
Speaker AI suck.
Speaker AI'm bad.
Speaker AAnd that is not true.
Speaker AWant to know what is true?
Speaker AThe truth is you and I were divine beings.
Speaker AYou were created by the divine.
Speaker AAnd you know that when you get quiet and you feel inside and I know you've had divine nudges and feelings, inspiration and intuition, you may not believe it sometimes.
Speaker AYou may sometimes feel like, ah, how could this be happening?
Speaker ABut you know, you're.
Speaker AYou're divine.
Speaker AAnd you also know that you have far more capability than you're using.
Speaker AWe all do.
Speaker AWe all live below our capability.
Speaker AOften the reason is because we have had failures.
Speaker AAnd then we carry these stories about the failures, that they mean bad things about us.
Speaker ASo I'm going to give You a practice, something you can do to change that.
Speaker ABecause just talking about the fact that we fail and then we blame it on ourselves personally and we treat it as an indictment and we give up isn't very helpful unless we have a way forward.
Speaker ASo there's two things I'm going to suggest to you.
Speaker ABoth of them I do, and both of them are effective.
Speaker ANumber one is getting a coach.
Speaker AGet somebody who believes in you at least as much or more than you do, someone who you can talk with and they can see your greatness and they can talk with you and hold a space for your enormous vision.
Speaker ASo often when I get the chance to meet people and talk to them about their vision, they start with these small visions.
Speaker AWell, I'd like to do this.
Speaker AAnd it's not that there's anything wrong with the goal, a certain amount of money or a certain house or car, but it's like, oh, if I have that, I'll be so happy.
Speaker AWhen just in a half an hour conversation, I have seen awesome gifts.
Speaker AGifts, talents and capability.
Speaker AI had a conversation with somebody the other day and I listened to their story, their life story, their journey.
Speaker AAnd they're about my age, in the 70 range.
Speaker AAnd I was in awe.
Speaker AAnd I'm thinking, and they were doing good already.
Speaker AIt wasn't like they were sitting around just eating bon bons and watching Netflix.
Speaker ABut I was in awe at the resilience and at the developed skills, at the capability that they had and that they were still on fire to do good, add good to the world.
Speaker AAnd so we talked about what else was possible, how many people they might impact, where and how they might do that, how many millions of people would benefit from the message, from the stories, from the choices of resilience.
Speaker AAnd so we were able to create a lot of excitement, energy and a plan to get that done.
Speaker ASo, number one, get a coach, get someone who believes in you, who's going to be with you, help you, hold you accountable, help you shape a beautiful vision, help you dare more greatly than you dare yourself.
Speaker AWhen you have somebody with you that believes in you, you know, it's like, why we still seen these movies about football or basketball coaches or something, and they just inspire their team or one player on the team or individuals to get to enormous heights of success.
Speaker AGood coaches do that.
Speaker ASo don't just get any coach, get one that inspires you.
Speaker APeople often ask me, well, how do I pick a coach?
Speaker AInterview several and pick one that makes you feel invincible, that makes you feel like you can do whatever you want.
Speaker AAnd then that offers the support, encouragement, examples, frameworks, and tools to help you make that happen.
Speaker ARight?
Speaker AIf you had a coach and they make you feel like crap or they make you feel wrong or stupid, that's not very helpful.
Speaker AWe don't listen.
Speaker AWe don't work very well when we feel picked on or, you know, for being dissed, Right?
Speaker ASo that's how you pick a coach.
Speaker AYou talk to several.
Speaker AAny good coach will talk to you for a little bit and find out what you want and see if they think they can help you.
Speaker ASo that's number one.
Speaker ANumber two, this is a personal thing you can do by yourself.
Speaker AYou don't need anyone or any help.
Speaker AAnd that's this little couplet I have, which is notice and choose.
Speaker ANotice and choose.
Speaker AMost of us go through life without paying attention to what's going on inside of us, without thinking about how we feel.
Speaker AWe're angry.
Speaker ASomething happens we don't want.
Speaker AWe're angry or we're frustrated, or we're resentful, or we're sad, or we're saying, you're picked on.
Speaker AWhy me?
Speaker AAnd we have those feelings, but we don't stop and say, hey, I am feeling angry right now.
Speaker AAnd you might think that's stupid.
Speaker AYou might say, well, duh, if you're mad, you know you're mad.
Speaker ANo, hear me out here.
Speaker AI'm feeling angry right now.
Speaker AIs that serving me?
Speaker AForget the other person or the situation, doesn't matter who did what.
Speaker AI am feeling angry right now.
Speaker AIs that really serving me?
Speaker A99% of the time you're going to find it isn't.
Speaker ABecause when we get angry, we're blaming.
Speaker AAlmost always we get locked in narrow patterns of thinking that aren't serving us.
Speaker AAnother really good one to do that with is fear.
Speaker AWhat am I feeling right now, man?
Speaker AI'm scared to death.
Speaker AI'm going to go give a prezi.
Speaker AI'm going to talk on stage.
Speaker AI'm going to meet a new person.
Speaker AI'm going to apply for a job.
Speaker AI'm going to do whatever.
Speaker AI'm just afraid of something the next.
Speaker ASo first stop.
Speaker AHow am I feeling?
Speaker AWhat is it that I'm feeling?
Speaker AAnd then make it.
Speaker AMake a choice.
Speaker ANotice and choose.
Speaker ATake the time to notice how you're feeling and then make a conscious choice.
Speaker AWhat would I need to do?
Speaker AWho do I need to be to not be afraid?
Speaker AYou might think of someone else.
Speaker ALet's say you're going to speak.
Speaker AWho do I need to be to not be afraid of this, you might think of someone that you know, a superhero, a friend, someone that you know, well, I'm going to be them for a minute, right?
Speaker ANotice and choose.
Speaker AI'm angry.
Speaker AYou know what?
Speaker AI can choose not to be angry.
Speaker AI don't need to be angry.
Speaker AYou can't make me mad.
Speaker AAnd anger and fear are two really prevalent and really easy ones to do this with.
Speaker AYou don't have to be angry and you don't have to be afraid.
Speaker AAnd we're not talking about saber tooth tigers and bears chasing and stuff.
Speaker ATalking about 99% of our fear is in our mind and it's about stuff that never happens.
Speaker AThere was a quote that said from somebody, I don't remember who, but it said, I know, I know worrying works because 90% of the things I worry about never happen.
Speaker AAnd of course it wasn't the worrying, it's the fact that they weren't going to happen.
Speaker AAnd all that effort and energy spent worrying was useless.
Speaker AFailure is a power to success.
Speaker AYou increase the likelihood of failure when you're afraid.
Speaker AWhat?
Speaker AYeah, when you're afraid.
Speaker AI'll tell you what.
Speaker AI did a lot of martial arts for a lot of years and in the form that I did, there were, you know, a lot of times we're breaking, breaking something, boards or bricks or whatever were part of the thing.
Speaker AAnd I can tell you when you're getting ready to break something, especially some pile of boards or bricks that's right at the limit or beyond the limit of where what you've done before, what you think you're capable of.
Speaker AIf you have fear and a split second hesitation, you're going to fail and you're probably going to break your arm.
Speaker AIt is eliminating the fear that lets you move forward and eliminate failure.
Speaker ASo let's talk about something else.
Speaker AIn some, maybe in your family it was different.
Speaker AI don't know.
Speaker AIn my family growing up, failure was, was a sin.
Speaker AIt was bad, it got punished often.
Speaker AIt got punished in silent ways with ridicule.
Speaker AAnd it got punished sometimes depending on what it was, with physical punishment, totally inappropriate, totally wrong.
Speaker AAnd it led to a climate of fear which contributed to my feeling not good enough and a bunch of stuff like that.
Speaker ASo let's understand, failure is just not getting the outcome you want.
Speaker AFailure is not an indictment of you.
Speaker AIt doesn't mean you're bad or you don't have value.
Speaker AIt doesn't mean the thing you're trying to do isn't worthwhile.
Speaker AIt only means that didn't work.
Speaker ANow I want you to examine your mindset toward failure.
Speaker AWhen you think of the word failure, failure, you failed.
Speaker AWhat.
Speaker AWhat comes up for you?
Speaker AIf that word even said that way, I said it creates a feeling in you of fear or negativity or I gotta hide or man, I hope that doesn't happen to me.
Speaker AThen you have a lousy relationship with failure.
Speaker AFailure is simply not getting what you intended.
Speaker AIt is normal, it is natural, and it is essential.
Speaker AIf you're not failing, you're not moving forward.
Speaker AI want to give you an example.
Speaker AJust the other day, three, two, three, four weeks ago, there was a rocket launch.
Speaker ASpaceX launched a rocket and they had launched one just a few months before.
Speaker AAnd it got up a few minutes in the sky and it blew up.
Speaker AThis one.
Speaker AThey launched another one, I can't remember the number of it.
Speaker ANine something nine.
Speaker AThey launched this one and it stayed in the air for longer than the other one.
Speaker AAnd then it blew up.
Speaker AAnd you could say, man, what a failure.
Speaker AWhat are they blowing that up for?
Speaker AAnd when you looked and did some research, they expected it to blow up.
Speaker AThey have a practice of testing the gear.
Speaker ANobody was in it.
Speaker AIt was unmanned, of course, because they knew it was going to blow up.
Speaker AThey're testing the gear to failure.
Speaker AWe test to failure so we can see where the real limits are.
Speaker AWhen you're doing workouts, doing push ups, doing curls, doing things, you do the reps to failure till you simply can't do anymore.
Speaker ABecause it is in that last moment of failure that the muscles break down and you get the most growth over, over the next days.
Speaker ASo failure is a beautiful word.
Speaker AIt is a powerful word.
Speaker AIt is something to make friends with.
Speaker AMake friends with failure.
Speaker ANow, another thing that failure does is it is a powerful learning opportunity.
Speaker AWhen I learned to ski, I didn't start learning to ski till I was 45.
Speaker AMy upbringing, we just didn't do winter sports.
Speaker AAnd as an adult, I didn't do it.
Speaker ASome changes happened in my Life and at 45 I went to learn to ski.
Speaker AAnd I'm kind of an all or nothing guy, so I wanted to learn quickly and I wanted to get off the bunny hill and the green stuff quick and get to the blue.
Speaker AAnd had my eye on black and black, black slopes and double blacks and guess what?
Speaker ALots of failure, lots of lessons, lots of learning about how you hold your body and how you distribute your weight and how you do or don't anticipate little bumps and you know, that kind of thing and what it means to have flat lit snow where you can't see contours, all of that.
Speaker ABoy, did I have a lot of failures.
Speaker AI paid some prices.
Speaker AI had bruises and bumps and a dislocated shoulder and a dislocated knee.
Speaker AI think that one was snowboarding, which I learned five years later.
Speaker ABut that is.
Speaker AThat's part of it.
Speaker AFailure is a learning opportunity.
Speaker AI interviewed somebody the other day as a podcast guest, and they said, fail up, fail up.
Speaker AAnother saying is fail forward.
Speaker ASo don't think of it as a setback, an indictment, or something negative.
Speaker AIt isn't.
Speaker AIt's just a data point.
Speaker AFail fast, fail forward.
Speaker AThat's the idea that hurry up and fail.
Speaker ATry it, try it, try it.
Speaker AFigure out what doesn't work so you can hone in quickly on what does work.
Speaker ANow, I'm not saying just go try crazy things and fail in terms of getting hurt or wasting all your money or anything.
Speaker AGet the best guidance you can.
Speaker ALike I said, get a coach.
Speaker ATalk with people that have done what you're trying to do or something close to it, and get the best advice that you can get, and then go for it.
Speaker AYou're a creator.
Speaker AYou're a divine creator.
Speaker ASo let failure, all of your failures, energize you, light you up, make you love yourself more, and move you to success.
Speaker AOne thing I would ask you to do is every time something fails, go to the mirror and look in the mirror and say, I love you and just love yourself.
Speaker ABecause like I said, and you know this, we live in a world right now where failure is a stigma.
Speaker AThere's an indictment, and it's, you know, a view of your value and of your common sense or whatever.
Speaker AYou're bad somehow because you failed, and it's not true.
Speaker ANo progress takes place without failure.
Speaker ANo growth takes place without consistent failure and effort, adjustment and learning.
Speaker AAnd if you are able to change your attitude to where you love failure, lean into it, look forward to it, because it is on the back of your failure that you will rise up to the most successful things you want to do.
Speaker ANow, I'm doing this podcast about your ultimate life because I know you have the ability to create a life of purpose, prosperity, and joy.
Speaker AYou can.
Speaker ANo one can take that from you, and no one from.
Speaker ACan keep you from doing it.
Speaker AYou're gonna fail.
Speaker AOne of the things that happens always in either.
Speaker AIn private coaching, my coaching groups, people are writing books or they're doing videos or something, and they're like, oh, this is gonna look bad.
Speaker AAnd, oh, what if somebody thinks I'm Stupid or whatever.
Speaker AI just interrupt them right there and I say, good.
Speaker AThey are.
Speaker AYou're going to have some that do.
Speaker ASo let's get past that barrier right now.
Speaker AYep.
Speaker AThere's going to be people that think you're stupid.
Speaker AThere's going to be people that think you're wrong.
Speaker AThere's going to be people that hate on you.
Speaker AAnd you know what?
Speaker AIf that's not true, you're not saying anything, you're not doing anything, you're not building anything.
Speaker ASo expect it, look for it, lean into it.
Speaker AI don't mean belligerence or anger or fighting or any of that.
Speaker AJust lean into your own progress.
Speaker ALean into your own growth.
Speaker AYou are capable, you are powerful.
Speaker AYou are destined to win.
Speaker AAnd for every one of us, the road to winning goes through failure.
Speaker AIt goes through 1, 2, 5, 10, 50 or 10,000, in Edison's case, failures to get to success.
Speaker AAnd so what?
Speaker ASo what?
Speaker AFailure is not a catastrophe, it's a celebration.
Speaker ASo treat yourself well, love yourself, lean in, dare more greatly, experience more deeply, and lean in more joyously.
Speaker AI have learned to do that.
Speaker AAnd I can tell you from being on the other side of hating failure and hating myself when I failed and all the rest, to just living in purpose, prosperity and joy all the time.
Speaker AAnd failure is fun.
Speaker AIt's part of life.
Speaker AAnd it means that you're working and you're growing.
Speaker AAnd I'm not saying we're trying to fail, but lose all the stigma and replace it with love and energy.
Speaker AThat is a secret most people don't have.
Speaker AThey try to minimize the pain instead of maximize the joy.
Speaker AYou're powerful.
Speaker AWhy?
Speaker ABecause you're trying.
Speaker AYou're great.
Speaker AWhy?
Speaker ABecause you're out there busting it.
Speaker AYou're moving forward.
Speaker AI would rather work with and be associated with people that are doing things and failing than those that are afraid, waiting for the right time and hanging back because they're worried.
Speaker ASo I invite you to go to three places.
Speaker AI invite you to go to dreambuildrite.com I'm going to hold a challenge in June, and if you have a story to tell, that might be for you, I invite you to go to kellenfluker media.com because there's all kinds of resources there that you can have.
Speaker AMany of them don't cost anything at all, but they're powerful and they come out of my years of doing decades now actually of doing this work with people.
Speaker AI ask.
Speaker AI'm going to invite you to one more place.
Speaker AI've got a website called MasterYourMonsters.com MasterYourMonsters.com and it's kind of funny because when we're kids, we think, you know, monsters might be into the bed or in the closet or whatever.
Speaker AAnd then we grow up and we realize that was just our imagination.
Speaker ABut as adults, we have monsters.
Speaker AI'm not good enough.
Speaker AMonster, it's not my fault.
Speaker AMonster, I have no time.
Speaker AMonster, procrastination and all those others that really eat our lunch.
Speaker ASo I created a product called Master your monsters.
Speaker AIt's free and it's an audio course with ten audios tackling particular monsters.
Speaker AThis will help you overcome, change your relationship with and lean into failure.
Speaker AAll of this is something I give to you because I love you.
Speaker AI know that you're divine and capable and there's nothing that can can keep you from creating your ultimate life.
Speaker ANever hold back and you'll never ask why.
Speaker AOpen your heart.
Speaker AAnd this time around, right here, right now, your opportunity for massive growth is right in front of you.
Speaker AEvery episode gives you practical tips and practices that will change everything.
Speaker AIf you you want to know more, go to kellenfluecigermedia.com if you want more free tools, go here YourUltimate Life CA subscribe Share.