Why Most People Stay Stuck (And How to Finally Soar)

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You have infinite power stuck to soaring, like blasting off and flying in the sky effortlessly and beautifully.

Do you know what a peregrine falcon is?

I saw a television episode where somebody misunderstood that and called it a penguin falcon.

A peregrine falcon is one of the most beautiful and powerful creatures in in the world.

It is the fastest creature on earth when it does the dives.

It's recorded to dive it in excess of 200 mil an hour.

And it flies so high that it can reach those kinds of speeds.

And it's interesting because the speed of free fall is about 125 miles an hour.

So as a person jumps out of an airplane with a parachute and falls free fall, you can accelerate faster and faster, but there's a limit.

And the reason there's a limit is because the air, the resistance of the air prevents the body from speeding up anymore.

And so the limit of a free fall person out of a plane, for example, is about 125 miles an hour.

However, a peregrine falcon in a dive to catch some prey exceeds 200, 208 or 210 miles an hour or something like that.

You can look it up and it defies that resistance of air by the shape that it's able to take and so forth.

And you know what the other incredible thing is about that?

It's vision.

The bird's vision is so good that from thousands of feet up, it can see the prey clearly and distinctly and then goes into a dive at blistering speed in order to accomplish its goal, which in this case is eat.

So now I want you to think about soaring.

I want you to think about the idea of soaring in your life.

Soaring way up where you have an eagle eye view or a falcon's eye view of everything that's possible for you.

How do we get up there?

How do we create our world so that if you need to dive immediately and it great speed to take advantage of some opportunity and instead of diving, let's call it acting.

If you need to react or act or respond to some situation or opportunity that's right there for you and you need to do it at lightning speed, what happens most of the time is we do several things.

We start to think about it and then we overthink.

We then start to drag in doubts and fears about oh, you know, what if I fail?

What if somebody sees me?

What if it's wrong?

Is this really the right time for me?

Is this the right thing?

Is this the right moment?

Is this the right everything?

Right?

And we create that momentum barrier, the barrier to our movement.

That's kind of like the resistance of air.

And so instead of like when a falcon gets in that pose of just total streamline straight down, it gets way above the speed normally available with the resistance of air.

What we do when we overthink and over plan and everything else is we're spreading out, right?

And so we limit our ability to react, we limit our focus, we limit our power, our creativity and everything else because we've dragged in all these doubts.

Now, I'm going to be done here with the analogy of the falcon.

Maybe, maybe I'll bring it in.

But this is the fourth episode in this whole four series thing from stuck to soaring right now.

There's been a couple of guests in between, but the first one was the hidden cost of settling.

And if you.

And, you know, settling for, you know, mediocrity.

It's interesting because I had three interviews on national radio stations in the last couple of weeks that asked that question, why addiction to mediocrity is spoiling our lives.

And I got a chance to talk about that live on the air on three so far.

And there's another one coming up, very large radio stations.

And that's fantastic.

And it's fun to do.

Actually, there's been four.

It doesn't matter.

But that was the episode that was first.

Go back and find that.

The second one was the power of choice, which is our ability to reclaim our agency or choice.

And the third one was building resilience, turning setbacks into setups.

And this fourth one is now.

This fourth one is now you building a future you love.

How do you build a future you love?

What do you do to create that thing?

And so I want to talk with you about that today.

And I'm looking, I made a couple of notes.

And so I want to get that right here in front of me.

Good.

So let's talk about what your ultimate life means to you.

Because for the falcon, it means food, right?

Now, when you see an opportunity, it means some kind of success or service or notoriety or cash.

You know, it's like an investor.

I know a.

A few months ago there was a person creating or had created a company, but was looking for capital to raise for a particular company that's growing wildly.

And I know that they're going to be successful.

And at that moment I didn't have availability of capital to invest in the amount required or I would have done it.

And since then, of course, it's done exactly what I, what I thought taken off.

Now, how often do you see an opportunity, you hesitate and then you, and you wait and you don't do it.

And so then later you say, oh, coulda, woulda, shoulda, I could have been a contender.

That's a line from some famous movie about someone lamenting about the opportunities that passed them by.

So I want you to think about what is for you the ultimate life.

For me, it's purpose, prosperity and joy.

Now, I've been down all the other roads, been down all the other roads of big cash, big position, big notoriety, and they were not fulfilling just for a moment, big name in one particular industry.

When I was an executive, I was not happy, big deal for a minute.

But it had nothing to do with the fulfillment of soul.

And we live in a time right now when people are really looking for meaning and fulfillment.

The big chase of cash is not the answer.

And intuitively and in our hearts we know that.

So I define it as purpose, prosperity and joy.

And because I've been working on this now for 18 years, I have several things I'd like to offer you.

The first is a blueprint.

Now you're going to define ultimate life any way you want.

Often when I ask people that, they talk about freedom, which is beautiful, they talk about meeting more money, they talk about time.

And sometimes those are equated.

Well, if I had more money, then I would have more time because I wouldn't have to work so hard or do so much.

But I want you to take a minute, maybe an hour, and sit down and write down exactly what your ultimate life looks like.

I define it as purpose, prosperity and joy.

And let me tell you why.

After many years of chasing the brass ring and reaching it, chasing money and reaching it, chasing position and reaching it, and then having internal demons and struggles that I'm not going to rehearse here because it's in other episodes and in my book, Tightrope of Depression.

I, you know, had a wake up call that started me over and that opportunity, I'm so grateful, I, I don't even know how to describe the gratitude I feel for that wake up call.

Because now, since 2007, the last 18 years now, or almost 18, I've been blessed with the opportunity to pursue real happiness.

Purpose, a driving purpose, is the first key to real fulfillment.

A purpose beyond I Gotta make some money to get through the weekend.

Because even after you make money to get to the weekend and then you party and then you do it again and again and again, that's when you realize it's not hot, it is hollow.

And it doesn't mean anything unless you tie it to a larger purpose.

You were built for more, and you know that in your heart.

So my purpose, one that I have landed on and own fiercely, is to help you realize who you are as a divine being.

Help you create impact and income with your gifts and your skills and your life experience.

Like the most valuable thing, where you can make the most money and have the most fun isn't something you learned in school or a trade place or anything else.

The most valuable thing you have is your life experience, your divine gifts and the skills you've learned.

So it's not that the skills aren't important, but they're not the defining thing.

How many doctors or lawyers do you know who are burned out, who've made the cash and want to get out, want to do something, quote, meaningful, and that's physicians that have spent their lives healing.

So.

And I personally know some, and maybe you do too.

There is a deeper soul purpose S O U L and you can ignore it.

You're free to do that.

And that leaves us with longing.

So the first key is find and choose a purpose.

Find a.

Choose my purpose this year, and my year ends October 14th for reasons that I've told in other episodes.

My end is also in the book Tightrope, if you want to read it.

But my purpose is to reach 300 million people.

Why such a ridiculously large number?

Because we have the technology, with the Internet and with our ability to reach the world.

And because I'm driven by this purpose.

Our time is now.

There is a rising up in the world of this yearning to do good, to solve the personal.

I mean, the perennial problems of hunger and literacy and water and freedom and rights and honesty and all of the rest.

And yeah, there's a boatload of people living against that and looking out for their own needs.

And that doesn't mean anything except there's more and more opportunity for you and I to do what we're called to do.

I'm called to talk to you.

I'm called to help you realize who you are, a divine being, what that means.

You have infinite capability if you want to use it.

One of the ways I express that that's so much fun is I help people write books.

Not just any book, but the book of their own journey.

Now, that journey doesn't matter very much until you've made a choice to be the best person you can be and you've gone on that development work.

But this thing right here, dream buildwriteit.com is a website where twice, maybe three times a year, I'll hold these book challenges to help you discover that story within you, write the book and then turn it into a product or service to serve and make money with.

See, Making money, There's nothing wrong with that.

In fact, there's something very right about it if you're providing value, deep and meaningful value that comes from your soul.

Experience Stuck to soaring.

Now, many people get stuck around the idea that they're not good enough.

Many people get stuck around the idea they don't have much, that they don't have a story that nobody would read it, that everybody's already said everything that needs to be said, and a host of other things that sound about the same.

Right this minute, I'm halfway through the six month period that it takes to do all that.

I ran a book challenge in January.

As I record this, it's mid June.

And so we're halfway through that six month process.

And right now I've gotten three of the first draft manuscripts of the nine people that went with me on that journey.

They're magnificent.

And every single person is talking about how much they have changed in doing this work of declaring a purpose, owning it, living into it, and then writing about it from their own life experience.

The most important gift you and I have is the answer to the question, how did you get where you are if you're successful?

And I don't mean you make all the money you ever thought of or any of that.

What I mean is, if you're happy and successful in that you're happy and that you have mastered or are mastering your own growth and journey, and you're living with love and kindness like you know you want to if you're successful, you know, right this minute, people look at you and say, wow, I wish I could have do be whatever you are, you know that.

And you can downplay it and pretend it's not true, but it is true.

And so the most valuable gift you can have, because as soon as people see that about you or me or anyone else that's doing that work, they say, wow, I wish I could have, you know, or be like so and so you actually.

And then right behind that they say, yeah, but I could never do that because.

And then there follows a whole bunch of yeah, but Yebit, yeah, but, yeah, but, yeah, but this.

Yeah, but that.

And they describe all the arguments for their own weakness and their own limitations and why, oh, it's not the right time and they don't have any support.

Going on that journey of self discovery is the most important thing you're ever going to do.

Writing about it and expressing the truth, it's not a memoir kind of thing, but expressing the truth of the choices, resilience, growth and power that you've chosen to get where you are, that's the most beautiful thing you can share because it unlocks the journey.

No one can look at you and say, yeah, I couldn't do that because you shared all there is about that journey.

And for the people that are in that challenge, for the six months that we're halfway through right now, it's been so revelatory.

I just got an email this morning from one of the, you know, one of the members just expressing the depth of that change in discovery and their excitement about creating a product that will share their journey and learnings with others who are similarly motivated.

There's an infinite need.

And so I don't care if someone has written about death or resilience or forgiveness or love or grieving or any one of a hundred or a thousand topics.

And you can say, well, that's already been written.

It has not been done in your voice.

So if you don't have your ultimate life, if this moment you're not living a life of purpose, prosperity and joy, I have something for you.

Go to your ultimate life.

Yourultimatelife, ca.

Yourultimatelife, ca.

And get the blueprint to create this ultimate life.

There are five parts to that.

It is available to you right here, right now.

So go get it and move from stuck to soaring.

So the first element of my ultimate life, I say purpose.

The second one, purpose, prosperity and joy.

The second is prosperity.

And here's what's interesting.

Prosperity means money.

It means cash.

It means selling products or services which you're already doing.

You're either anything from a high powered attorney to a barista at Starbucks, to a, you know, whatever, whatever an accountant, to a sound healer, to, you know, someone in international relations.

All those skills are being sold in the marketplace.

And they're only half your power, hear me?

They're only, only half your power.

And so you're creating less than half of the value you're, you could in the world.

And value means money.

The secret is to learn to combine the skills that you've learned, whatever they are with the experiences you've had, because it exponentially magnifies your value.

Here's how I know that when I help people write books, which wasn't a skill I thought I had, but I've uncovered it in that journey since 2007, in my own journey of growth and everything else.

I began writing, and now I love writing, and I love helping others write and tell their stories and reach and yearn and serve.

And you know what happens when we do that?

We start helping.

We start making a difference.

When we start making a difference, we start getting paid, paid and paid well paid, powerfully paid big.

And so prosperity is a natural outcome.

Prosperity is a natural outcome of owning your purpose.

So I'm talking about purpose, prosperity, and joy.

And prosperity is a natural outcome of owning your purpose.

So when you choose your purpose, which you can easily find by looking at your life experience and seeing what you've learned, and you start to use it to serve prosperity.

Cash is a natural outcome.

It's not twisted, it's not difficult, it's not complicated.

It doesn't involve squirmy sales or any of that stuff that we all hate.

Nobody likes that.

Either to be sold to or to try to sell.

You're not doing that.

You're serving.

You're lifting the burden, enlightening the hearts, blessing the lives and feelings of others.

That's what you're doing.

People pay for that.

They pay big money for that.

I know, because that's what I do.

And I know many other people that are doing the same thing.

And I know that you can if you want to.

I'm not saying how you can, how you have to do that.

One of the beauties of this challenge that I run is not only do we write a book, but I work with each person in there to figure out what is the most fun way for you to get paid.

For you to monetize is the buzzword, right?

For you to present what you have in such a way that you get paid.

It might be speaking, it might be a product, it might be a service, it might be in some kind of a job, but your ability to do it, and therefore your ability to get paid big bucks is directly related to how deeply you own and can talk about that journey.

So purpose and prosperity are the two things.

Now, prosperity means way more than just cash, although that's a big piece of it, because, yes, we need money.

And the more money you have, guess what?

The bigger your reach is, right?

The more people you can reach.

Because, you know, creating reach sometimes, often Takes cash, investment.

I've just invested in being on some radio shows.

It was great.

And I've been on some large ones in North America.

And it was fun and it was good.

And I've also reached millions of people doing that with the messages that I have.

And to do that costs a little money, but there are other ways, no cost, low cost, that I used to use and I still use when you're starting and when you don't yet have a bunch of money to invest in reach.

So prosperity grows and you get paid and the money helps you do more.

And you're called to do more.

You want to.

It's not like you owe it.

You feel like you want to.

What I've noticed that always happens.

It's funny when a person, you or me or anybody overcomes some serious obstacles.

Maybe you had a loved one die.

Maybe you had a crime committed and someone close to you was killed.

Maybe you have suffered terrible things as a youth and you had abuse, maybe something smaller.

Maybe there were difficulties of any kind.

And those kinds of things either ruin us or they refine us, right?

And I've talked about this before, and you know it.

But when we let them ruin us, we shrivel, we shrink, we don't do anything meaningful and powerful.

When we make a choice to ask a different question, which is, what is the gift here?

What can I learn from this?

How can I grow from this?

How can I serve from this?

Then a whole world opens up to you that's not open.

If we just complain, it's not fair, it's not right.

It's not just that may be true.

But if I wait, or you wait to serve with what you've learned, with those struggles, you're going to be waiting forever.

If you wait for, quote, justice to be done before you're satisfied, you're finished.

Because no matter what justice is done to someone who hurts you, it's never going to clean out your soul.

The only thing that can clean out my soul or yours is forgiveness.

And that doesn't mean making a person an attacker, emotionally or physically.

It doesn't mean making them right or okay.

That's separate.

Forgiveness is the allowance for humanity and for anyone to be human, yourself included.

My most difficult thing was self forgiveness.

But it is a choice to no longer allow things in the past, no matter who did them, to have power in the present.

And there are steps and processes to do that, just like there's steps to getting a degree in business or law or anything else.

So if you want to be have the freedom, the prosperity, as it were, of complete forgiveness to where you're at peace and there's nothing fussing you ever on any day.

Imagine that.

Are you holding any grudges?

Are you holding any visions of negativity?

Are you holding any fears that you're not good enough or that you can't cut it, or that you weren't made out for this, or that your place is to be invisible and to just sort of serve others?

And your value is in being silent and sacrificing all that kind of stuff.

It's, it's good to be nice, it's good to be of service.

But codependency is a vicious crime against your soul.

Not setting boundaries and claiming your own power and ability to love and serve on your terms is a crime against your soul.

And you're not only robbing you, but all those others that you could serve from love and joy.

Because most of the time when we serve from obligation, we have a resentment feeling.

We have a feeling of who's going to ever recognize me, who's going to, you know, who's going to build me up, who's going to, whatever, that kind of feeling.

When you serve from love, you don't have that feeling because love never runs out.

It's available in infinite supply 24 7.

One of the keys is to learn to access that.

It's there, it's available.

You and I were conceived in love.

We were built from love.

We were put here out of love.

Our opportunities, including the difficult things that don't seem fair, are an opportunity for us to grow and be more, become more powerful, more useful, more loving, more kind of more service.

So defining your ultimate life.

I use purpose, prosperity and joy.

And we've talked about purpose, we've talked about prosperity.

Now I want to talk about joy.

Joy is kind of the.

It's a choice.

Joy is a choice.

I can choose to be happy no matter what's going on around me.

Now, it might be hard to do if I've raised myself or adopted the habit of complaining about things being negative or angry or blaming or, you know, pointing at others and other situations, people, circumstances, government, God, economy, society, everything else.

If I choose to point at those.

What I've done is I've learned to be helpless.

I have, I dove, I have dived.

Which way?

What.

How do you say that?

I dove into the soul sucking swamp of learned helplessness.

That's a place of soul sucking, you know, powerlessness, where we believe mistakenly that we have no power, that we cannot Control or create life like we want.

Yes, you can.

And you can start right now.

One thing that I've created to offer is that www.yourultimatelife ca, not even Canada.

So ca, that's a.

That's an offering.

It's free.

Doesn't cost you anything.

Another thing I have is I've written 20 books.

Every one of them is about some aspect of this.

I wrote about my own journey and tightrope of depression.

My journey from darkness, despair and death to light, love and life.

It talks about the miraculous stuff that happened in 2007, the year I turned 52, after decades, 52 years of misery and suffering that I had the key to and didn't know it.

And I am convinced that one of the most important things that we're here to do is to learn and to take control.

And you know what's interesting?

It seems like in order to learn that, we got to go through these difficulties because how many times have have you told someone, you can just do this, this and this, and you know, it works and they don't.

And so they don't do it and they don't try it.

And you're like, ah, you're hurting yourself over and over again, right?

Parents feel that way about kids.

You're hurting yourself, oh, no, you don't have to go through this.

And we do, and we do it over and over again until you use your agency or I use mine.

And it's like, oh, I do get to control this.

This is mine.

I got the levers.

I don't have to be unhappy.

I can have joy.

I can live in joy all the time.

Sometimes that's harder to do than others.

If you're struggling, excuse me, with money or with health, or if you're struggling with, you know, a relationship or a betrayal or an illness, or having lived, you know, with, with negative self image for all your life.

However you got it, I don't care.

The key is, however you got that, you have the ability to change it right here, right now.

Www.yourultimatelife.ca is one place.

All the books that I've written, Tightrope of Depression, down from the Gallows, Walking Without Fear, Forgiveness, Meeting God at the Door.

The results equation, the story arc.

And the most recent one is Living with Purpose and Power, which is a book that I wrote about how to do exactly what I'm talking about.

Everything that I know, I didn't hold anything back.

Every secret, every tool I have poured into that book.

It's funny, I'm recording This.

Now, on a certain day, it doesn't matter, it's a Monday.

And you'll see it whenever it is, in the right order of things.

But I just got off a call with someone and they were asking me about this purpose, prosperity and joy, and asking me about how I get ready for the day.

Now, you know, there's a shower and teeth and all the rest.

Sure.

But I have a special process, a daily creation process.

Now, you know what that is, right?

You eat breakfast, whatever you eat.

Maybe it's coffee, maybe it's cereal, maybe it's, you know, veggie smoothie, I don't know.

You get dressed, you take care of your body.

So you do a preparation process already.

My discovery is that creating my heart and soul every day on purpose, creating my heart and soul every day on purpose is the best prep I can do.

Now, I include in that exercise and shower and all the rest, but choosing who I'm going to be, full of love, full of forgiveness, full of energy, full of encouragement, I choose that again every single day.

Why?

Because I want to.

I have decided who I want to be.

And that goes back to the purpose part.

You get to pick your purpose.

The clues to that are your skills, your natural gifts, and your life experience.

And you get to mine the skills that you have, the gifts, natural gifts you have, and the life experience, especially the rough ones, the tough ones, the hard ones, the injustices, pain of loneliness, right?

The ravages of adversity.

All that kind of stuff is the fertile ground from which you get to choose your purpose.

Now, this is your call.

So this is an invitation to find your purpose and then choose it and lean into it and love it and dedicate your heart to it.

And here's why it's worth it.

It's you.

It will make you the happiest, it will make you the most money, and it will be the most fun.

And that might seem like a bold claim, and it is.

But here's what else I know.

I can show you how to do that.

I can show you because I've done it for myself repeatedly, and reinforced it and refined it.

Everything I teach is battle tested, not only in my own life, but in the lives of clients and those that I help and serve.

And I do it because I love it, no matter what I did.

In my executive world, nothing even remotely is as much fun as helping you.

Learn to love yourself, learn to recognize your awesome person.

You know, you have the Superman or superwoman cape on of some kind.

And I don't think you're using it all.

Maybe you have glimpses, maybe you're using it sort of.

But there's another layer.

And the reason that's important is your own purpose.

Prosperity and joy.

The kind of difference you can make in the world, the kind of money you can make, you can get paid well.

And that allows you to do more.

Right?

It allows you to do more, be more, say more, help more, lift more, bless more.

So one invitation www.yourultimatelife.ca another invitation is to.

I'd love to talk to you.

If you.

If what I'm saying here resonates with you and you want to talk about it and understand how, exactly how to do the things that I've learned with now decades of work, I'm happy to share it with you.

I've written it in books.

I teach it openly to clients.

There's no secrets.

I hold nothing back.

You don't need.

I don't need to hold anything back.

The road is not trivial.

The refinement that comes from the refining fire of just life itself.

It's tough, it's hot.

And it can be a struggle.

The wounds of you're not good enough.

You're invisible.

You don't count.

You know, you're a people pleaser.

You got to do this.

That those wounds are deep and they're going to stay there unless you get rid of them.

But the good news is getting rid of them is possible.

The other good news is nobody can keep you from making that jump, that leap, that joy.

Nobody can keep you from that.

You own this.

I use the acronym wipos.

W I P O S wipos, and it stands for worth.

Understanding your real worth.

Infinite.

I is your identity, owning the fact that you're a divine being.

You were created by God with a purpose, with talents, and sent here for a reason.

Now, you can ignore that and you can fight with it, or you can find it powerful.

P stands for possibility.

Possibility because of who you are as a child of the divine.

Your possibility is infinite.

But most people live with a blanket over it.

Most people live burying their light, barely getting by, working for the weekend.

And working for the weekend even means if you make half a million in a good job, I don't care.

You know you're not satisfied.

And if you are, and you've already discovered this and you're living your ultimate life, get a hold of me.

I want to talk to you.

I want to have you as a guest on the show because I love having guests who are also spreading the message and I get to meet many of those and they're the ones that I have as guests.

And you know what?

They're sharing their own journey to the very same destination.

So that invitation, if you want to be here on the show, go to kellenfluecigermedia.com Kellenflueckegermedia.com There's a contact form and let's talk.

You are divine.

That's your identity.

So your worth is infinite.

Your identity is a divine being.

Your possibility is you can create anything you want.

The O in whipos or wipos w I P o s is ownership.

We give away our lives, we hand over, control the circumstances in other people.

What a tragedy.

Let's end that right now.

Let's end that this moment.

Take fierce ownership of your life.

And if you want help with that, that's something I love to do also.

And S is sovereignty.

Sovereign king, queen regent, you're the sovereign of your own life.

If you've been handing away the direction, the ownership, the sovereignty means you decide ownership, you own it.

But you may be giving that away to others and living their script.

It's time to stand up and be the sovereign.

So this is the fourth one in From Stuck to Soaring.

And we talked about those other three topics and this is your opportunity to just soar.

It's opportunity to be all of those things.

You don't need anybody's permission to serve.

You don't need anyone's permission to love.

You don't need anyone's permission to forgive.

That is a sacred act in your own heart, forgiving yourself or others.

Your story through this wilderness of life, this battleground of development, this canyon of struggle, your story through that is the most powerful thing you own.

Your story is somebody's survival guide.

Now, you can sit on it or you can share it.

I would love to hear it either on this show or in a book or in some other way because somebody's desperate to hear it right now.

Now, I've given you a couple of invitations and I'm going to give you one final one.

If you want help, you don't know how to get your story organized and created into a service or a product or a book or something.

Go to www.dreambuildwriteit.com.

it's on the screen www.dreambuildrite it somebody's waiting for you and we can turn your story into a movement.

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