You Are the Architect: How to Design and Build Your Ultimate Life (No More Excuses!)

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Welcome to your ultimate life.

Welcome to your absolute joy, pleasure, and power.

You know, I talk about this every single episode a little bit and from a different angle.

And sometimes I use the same words, and sometimes completely different words.

And a lot of it depends on what's going on around me, what I've seen, who I've talked to.

And I come to the same conclusion over and over again.

And that is, you're the architect.

Now, this little screen behind me says the law of the Architect.

And I use that as a background for a class that I taught, I don't know, a couple of weeks ago.

And the reason I used it is because it's a true thing.

And it talks about your.

Your.

The need to be the architect of something.

You know, we.

We.

We do this haphazard approach to life.

Often, like, I don't know, you just get up and you do whatever's handy.

Maybe you have a little morning ritual about grooming.

You know, if you're a guy, maybe you shave or maybe you have a beard, maybe you don't.

You dome your hair, take a shower, do whatever.

And so you prepare your body, and then maybe you eat, okay, I gotta eat, gotta eat breakfast, or whatever.

And so you prepare your body also.

Or maybe you exercise a little and you gotta prepare your body.

So there's a lot of things that we might do to prepare our bodies, either cleanliness or some kind of personal hygiene or exercise or both.

And we do that because it feels good.

If you're going out in public or you're going to be in public on Zooms or make, you know, appearances somewhere.

You want to look presentable and decent and, you know, don't want to stink.

So you use deodorant or whatever it is.

If you're on Zoom, I guess nobody smells yet over the video, but we do that preparation, and we do it because we think, okay, somebody's going to see me, and I want to look presentable, maybe attractive, maybe powerful, maybe focused, maybe not slovenly, but maybe, you know, together.

I want to appear to be together, you know, have it together.

And so, you know where this is going to go.

It's like, why is it only our body that we pay automatic and unwavering attention to?

Well, there's a couple of reasons.

One you wake up, you got to go to the bathroom.

You can't ignore that very long.

You might wake up and feel hungry.

So you say, oh, I'm hungry.

I gotta eat.

I gotta handle that feeling in my body that says, I need, you know, juice, a muffin, whatever, yogurt, whatever you eat in the morning.

But I've gotta nourish the body.

And if we go very long, your blood sugar gets low, your brain might get a little foggy and so forth.

So there are signals that tell us you gotta care for the body.

Then we have societal norms that people react.

If I show up looking, you know, tired or not in good shape, you know, if you party the next last night and you wake up looking not all there or hungover or something like that, we don't.

We don't want that because that has negative consequences.

And we know those, and we're acquainted with those our whole lives.

And that's fine.

As far as the body goes.

Now I want to do something else, talk about something else.

If you're going to take a test, maybe you're going to school, or maybe when you remember you went to school, or maybe you're taking some continuing education and you think, oh, I want to do well on the test.

So I study.

I remember, maybe I prepare some note cards and, you know, whatever it is to learn the principles, the ideas, the formulas, the processes that I have studied.

So I have them at my fingertips.

Maybe if you're going to have a performance, you know, I played the piano for a lot of years or sing, and I still do.

So you warm up, you work on things.

I've already done some work this morning on some songs.

I'm preparing for a concert I'm going to do.

I'm going to do a concert with.

On the third album that I have called Oasis, there's an album I'm preparing.

It's got 15 songs on it, Oasis.

And I'm gonna do a live concert, and a dozen of those, 15 are already released.

They're on Spotify, if you're curious.

So look up my name on Spotify, and they're released in groups of three.

And I'm gonna do a live concert here in Edmonton on that.

So.

And I'm.

I prepare for that.

Of course I do.

Why?

Because I wanna know the material.

I don't want to have the audience focused on the fact that the singer, the performer, the pianist and singer doesn't have his stuff together, can't remember the lyrics or, you know, is so focused on, you know, trying to play the music.

Right.

That he's not performing.

And so not only am I going to get the music really well learned, I have it on most of them.

And, and.

But I want to focus on expression and creativity so that you, as an audience member, you're like, oh, wow, I can feel this.

I'm glad I came.

I got messages, I got uplifted.

And if you know my stuff, it's all about your ultimate life.

It's all about meeting the challenges we have in life head on, overcoming them, using them as growth opportunities, building blocks, and then creating the ultimate life, the life of purpose, prosperity, and joy that I enjoy today and every day.

So why am I using all these examples of preparation?

Well, it's really simple.

When there's a specific deadline, like a concert or a test or we're going to the office and, you know, we have.

Or hunger, you know, we have these signals or external events that require us if we're going to perform well or look good or not offend people or whatever, to prepare.

Right.

And we do those things automatically.

Well, my question for you is, when there isn't one of these externalities that's obvious and forces us essentially to prepare.

And I'm not saying you do it all the time.

Yeah, I've gone to wing it and a bunch of times, and so have you.

And you congratulate.

Congratulate yourself.

Oh, yeah, I was just winging and I did so good.

Yeah.

And that's not normally, you know, you feel like you skated a little, or sometimes you even say, I do way better when I just wing it.

I'm just, you know, in the moment.

And I've done all that too.

So I'm not downplaying any of that.

I'm old enough that I've tried all these different approaches.

But here's what I want to talk about.

What about when there's nothing?

What about when it's just a day?

In fact, what does just a day even mean?

Every single day you draw breath is a performance.

Think about that.

It's a performance.

That performance happens once, and then that day is gone forever.

And it's written in the history books, in the book of life, in the minds of those you were with, in your own mind and heart and memory.

It's.

It's over.

And I'm not saying that to create this idea of pressure, because often if we're going to do a prezi at work or something, we feel some kind of pressure like, ooh, I better do that good.

Or I'm Going to suck.

I'm not talking about that.

I'm not talking about creating pressure.

But I am asking you about your desire.

Because your ultimate life is an idea that you have a purpose.

You may or may not know what it is right now.

You may or may not feel it driving you or calling you.

But purpose is the first word in purpose, prosperity, and joy.

And here's what I know.

You and I were created by the divine creator.

I'll use the word God, and you can substitute whatever spiritual power you want to to make it fit for you.

But we were created by that divine being.

We were created by God.

So that makes you and me a child of God, a son or a daughter.

So with that divine heritage, like there's purpose, creation's not an accident.

We were intentionally, lovingly created.

So that's a.

That.

That gives you pause.

That's a staggering thought.

Wow.

I am created on purpose, not some accident.

My spirit, now your body, your physical body, you've got a genealogy.

You had parents and they had parents.

But the pedigree of your spirit is just like one line.

Wow, God, you, God, me individually, I don't know how the mechanics of all that works, and I don't care.

But here's what I know.

That's true.

So it's not an accident.

And you have a purpose.

And purpose, prosperity, and joy is about finding that purpose, choosing it to own it, internalize, lean into.

Love it with all your heart and use it to serve.

And because we are serving with such vigor and power, we create awesome value.

And since money follows value, people pour money on you.

And as a combination of the service and love that you offer combined with your choice to live in a state of growth, that creates joy.

Joy is a choice.

Joy is a choice.

What?

Joy is a choice.

Now I'm married to joy, so that was also a choice.

And every time I say that about joy, I say I'm married to joy because it's funny for me every time.

Maybe you're tired of hearing it, so I just invite you to consider that.

And I waxed a little poetic here about our opportunity to prepare every day.

Because every day goes once and we get to have it once.

And so what that makes me want to do is be the best I can be that day, because I might not be here tomorrow.

Now, as I record this, and I don't know when you're going to hear it, it may be days, weeks, months from now.

And so a couple of days ago, I got an email from my sister that my mom Passed away.

And so she lived a good Life.

She was 91 and a half can be 92 in a few months.

So she had a long life, and she was productive and did a lot of good stuff and a lot of service and et cetera, et cetera.

So it was not sudden.

Sudden.

It's always sudden.

You're alive and then you're dead.

But it wasn't unexpected.

And I know because I've already had my own death experience when I chose to come back.

I know where she's going, what she's doing, and I know that she's with my dad.

And they were very in love with each other and lived, you know, together for many years before he passed.

But she's been a widow now for 20.

I don't know, 20 years.

27 years.

Almost 30 years.

27 years.

So she's had a long period without him, which was lonely for her.

But my point is, you're alive one day and you're dead the next, right?

And so it is sudden.

So we never know when that's going to be.

It can be after you're 91 or it can be tomorrow because there's an accident or a sudden illness.

I contracted a sudden illness in 2018 and flatlined and died in the ICU and had some conversations with God, and one of them was a conversation about whether to stay or go, meaning go into the eternal world or stay here.

And I chose to stay.

So I'm here by choice.

But you know what?

We all are because we chose to come before we came the first time.

We just don't remember all those details.

So all of this is preamble to set you up to something, for something I call the scroll of Truth and Power.

Now, the scroll of Truth and Power is a document that I created for myself with this idea of preparation in mind.

I want to.

I choose to live each day the very best I can, intentionally.

Like focused and powerful and useful.

That doesn't mean I don't play.

That doesn't mean I don't go on vacay.

That doesn't mean I don't just go hang out with joy sometimes.

But whatever I'm doing, I choose to do it the best I can with focused intention.

So in the last day or so, I've received lots of comments and heartfelt wishes of condolences and so forth, because my mom passed.

And it just warms my heart to see the tender outpouring of people.

Now, tons of people commented on my Facebook post, many of which I know and interact with at least on social on a fairly regular basis.

But many, at least half I would say not.

And many I don't even know their names and I didn't know they would see my post or that they are following me or our friends.

Because you know, sometimes we have lots of friend requests of folks we don't know.

I have that because of my work as a coach and I don't have time.

We have thousands and probably so do you.

My other page has 15,000 14,000 something followers.

So I don't know them many personally, but I love them and it's a heartfelt joy to hear and see those wishes.

And the preparation that I talked about that I do puts me in a state where my feeling is two things.

When I feel warm and grateful because they are sending those wishes and I feel tender toward them and I say something back and it's not driven by being polite or it's not driven by the need to acknowledge.

It is driven by true gratitude and acknowledging their their beingness as a child of God also and a sharing the common experience of sadness for a moment.

And they've chosen to share that with me.

And that's a beautiful thing.

So what I wanted to talk about for the bulk of our time today is the scroll of Truth and Power.

And if you want to see the whole scroll because I can't read it to you, it's too long, I would recommend you this book Living with Purpose and Power.

It is the most recent book I published, although I'm working on another one.

It is my 20th.

What I'm working on now is number 21 and in the scroll of Truth and or not the scroll, but in the book Living with Purpose and Power, I share all my documents including this scroll of truth and Power.

And more importantly I talk about how to create your own own because when you want to find or choose your life purpose, you have to do some examination in your soul about who you are and what you want to create.

You get to choose how you add your presence to the world.

I use the phrase a lot, adding good to the world because that's a choice that I make.

I choose all day, with every interaction.

How can I add good to this person's life?

How can I lift them up a little bit or a lot?

How can I add good to the world?

And you know, you can make stuff up on the spot and I find about how you can add good to the world and I find it way easier to do that when I've prepared the way I talk about in the scroll here, the way I talk about in living with purpose and power.

So I wrote that book for two reasons.

One, to share how I created document, what it does for me, why it's the most powerful writing in the world, except with the exception of God's word in Scripture.

That document is my own personal scripture.

It is a.

A conversation, much of which was revealed to me by God, about who I am, what I'm about, and my purpose here.

And to.

To make that document and then to memorize it, internalize it, weave it into every strand of my DNA, makes me remember, moment to moment, that I am a child of God, I have a purpose, what that purpose is.

And recommit.

Recommit.

Recommit every moment.

And I find that is the most joyful, powerful, fun way to live.

I've never had as much fun as I have right now in my life, and that's absolutely the truth.

And yes, I'm experiencing some sadness at my mom's passing, but I know where she is and I know what she's doing, and so there's some joy there, too.

The last years of her life were, you know, broken.

She was broken.

He's getting old, and Walker and, you know, some memory fading and so forth.

That happens when we get that age.

Not always, but usually.

So I'm grateful that she's with my dad now, grateful that she taught me music.

The greatest thing that I took from her is the music.

Developing music.

I learned to play the piano when I was young, and I've gone on to develop that professionally, both playing and singing and et cetera, et cetera.

So back to this scroll.

Now I.

Picture.

Here's what it is.

I want you to think of a herald on the castle wall.

And maybe there's some trumpets or not.

I don't know.

But the.

The.

The herald is reading the scroll at the top of his voice to project with infinite power.

That's how I treat this scroll.

And it's funny because in the.

In the scroll itself, the font I chose was one of these wavy, curly fonts like I imagine it's in my imagination, would be medieval in nature.

And there's a castle wall, and somebody's reading this scroll from that castle wall, only it's me reading it again aloud to myself and to my God.

I also have language in there that describes my work.

So it's tied together with my own contract, my Magna Carta, with.

With God and with.

With clients, with people that I work with, because there's a.

I.

I'm not Only speaking to myself and to God.

But I'm also, in the language, speaking to a client or a prospective client, talking about the power, the intent, the focus, the intensity and the results of the work we do.

Because the work that I do with people's intents.

And the reason is because you're so awesome.

You're amazing.

You're a miracle.

You're magic.

The odds of you living and being like you are one in a number so big you and I can't count that high or even imagine that high, you know, with a hundred zeros or more.

And that's infinitesimally small.

And the reason is because we're all literally unique.

Not only from a DNA perspective of which the combinations are infinite, but also from an experience perspective.

Your spirit, the experiences you've had, the things you've learned, the knowledge and things you brought with you.

Like all of us know we were somewhere before.

And the personalities of even identical twins are completely different.

So the physical DNA is only a.

A fraction.

That spiritual DNA is by far larger.

And then you add to that the insane number of combinations of experiences and feelings and attitudes and so forth that we have in this life.

We're not just a little unique, we're wildly unique.

And that is cool.

So the scroll of Truth and Power.

And I'm going to tell you just a little bit, there's five staves.

Now, stave is a word for verse.

Stave the first.

And I use that language because it's like, you know, reading from the wall.

The scroll of Truth and Power.

Stave the first.

Guided and nurtured by God through the valley of death and refined in fires of abuse, depression, addiction and self loathing.

I am become the ultimate alchemist, lover of people, healer of souls, magnifier of prosperity.

Stave the second.

And in the second stave, I talk about what I do and what a potential client does to create their own powerful identity and declaration.

So that's one of the things that's in living with purpose and power is how to create these kind of declarations and why and how to make them so powerful they rattle your soul every time you say them from memory.

And they move you.

They're literally part of you.

The second thing is how to create yourself every day.

Which goes back to the thing that we talked about at the start, which was this idea that when you have something important happening, you create yourself.

You don't let that happen accidentally.

Well, then why would you or I let one of our precious days go by without preparation?

Think about that I'm just going to show up today and see what happens.

Oh yeah, it was a sucky day.

Wish I'd war.

It's like saying I don't.

They're not going to pay attention to the weather at all.

I'm just going to go outside and hope I'm okay.

Well, some seasons you might be okay.

In the wintertime in Edmonton, if you don't check the weather, you could pay serious consequences.

So preparing for your day is intelligent, it is powerful, and it is the source of infinite joy.

When you show up prepared for a performance and you do well, you serve the people who listened and you serve yourself and you honor your creator.

So the scroll of truth and power is that document and process for me.

So I do a morning creation, daily creation process.

I don't use the words morning ritual because that has become a cliche and I don't like to trivialize it.

It's a daily creation process and mine takes me a couple of hours, sometimes maybe two and a half.

But it's powerful.

And when I get done, I am all in, focused and capable and meet every situation with awesome power.

Now, yesterday was.

Yesterday morning was a perfect example.

I did my morning ritual full on, totally prepared, came down, was having breakfast, saw an email from my sister and realized my mother had passed.

Now, I don't know how it would have affected me if I had no preparation.

But because I was fully prepared spiritually, physically, emotionally, mentally, I was immediately able to go to a place of love and understanding instantly.

And that was beautiful and powerful not only for me, but for others that I interacted with Yesterday morning and all day it has left me again because I prepared this morning in a state of grace, godly power and crazy love.

And as I thought about, you know, the things that had happened in, in her life and my life and all, all of that, I was also blessed to feel her spirit.

And there were some unresolved issues.

I wrote about those in tightrope of depression.

My own book journey, my own journey from darkness, despair and death to light, love and life.

And I felt the circle close in terms of completion not of her life, but of all of those things.

And so everything, there's no angst, there's no yearning.

It is closed in absolute peace.

What a blessing.

And it's because I have this kind of preparation document.

So when I say in that first day, you know, through the valley of death and the fires of all those things, I'm acknowledging the, the role of refining fire in my life that I meet head On.

And I enter refining fire every day on purpose.

That's not a one.

And done.

I choose, as I create my life, okay.

To master the principles of creation and create my life.

To enter refining fire every day.

Because I want to.

I want to grow every day.

And so I pursue that.

And in the second stave, I talk about how my people that I work with create their own lives.

And I give them or help them create tools.

Now, I have something called a guiding star set of documents.

One is this scroll of truth and power, but it's not the only one.

There are other declarations of being, but I also help clients create their own declarations.

And, you know, the state of being that they want to have.

And it's always mighty and powerful.

And so my invitation to you today is again, I said it a minute ago.

Get this book and read it or let's talk.

I invite you to chat with me because deciding choosing your life purpose and then embracing it with everything you are creates the most money, the most fun, and the most impact in the world.

Now, almost everyone I talk to says, I want to help people.

I want to have a big impact.

That desire comes because you're a divine being.

You focus that desire because when you think about your life, you say, wow, I've been through this, this, this, and this.

I've learned this, this, and this.

I sure could help people with this, this, and this.

And that Yearning builds this desire in us to go do and serve with that.

And then we stop and we don't.

And maybe we volunteer in the community and maybe we do something in our church, but we have this idea that we could do so much more.

And you know what?

The idea is true, and you're right.

And this is your invitation to do it now.

And so your invitation to start with is get that book.

Go to kellenfluecigermedia.com this little URL here on the top and contact me.

There's a contact form.

Let's talk.

Because finding out or choosing your own life purpose, that's consistent with your divine gifts, your life experience, that's the most important choice you're going to make.

You're a child of God.

You have infinite capability because you have the DNA of divinity.

What?

Yeah, the DNA of divinity.

I saw a post the other day that had some of the kids of the Beatles.

It might have been a kid of each of them, I don't know.

And it talked about their music ability and the songs a couple of them had written together.

And, you know, Paul McCartney was in the audience at a performance and you know, he's emotional and everything.

So.

So think about that for a minute.

Says some musical training and ability.

Generationally, you have gifts.

Are you maximizing those?

Are you intentionally identifying them and then developing them so that you can serve?

Because people, purpose, prosperity and joy includes the prosperity piece cash.

And I can't tell you, I can't count the number of times people that I talk to, sometimes as podcast guests, sometimes as clients, sometimes as prospect, sometimes as one of the members of the challenges that I hold.

And if you have a story you want to tell, see that right there.

Dream build, write it dot com.

Go there right now.

Dreambuildriteit.com let's discover your story.

You need to get it in the world.

Because people tell me all the time, well, I don't know how to do that.

I know I have something important, powerful that I could do, but I can't.

I don't have time.

I don't know how.

I'm stuck.

Well, I'll solve that for you.

Promise.

But you gotta come, you gotta show up and make it real.

You gotta do that for your own good.

So.

And the way to make cash, to get paid for your gifts, for your talents, for your life experience, that thing or things you know you can help people with.

The way to get paid for that is to create value.

Money follows value.

You don't have to shill for money.

Create value and people will pour money on you.

And if you don't know how, dream build, write it dot com, go there.

The challenge is free.

And I'll show you how to do it.

Because my goal, besides living my ultimate life, is to reach 300 million people this year, not in my lifetime.

300 million people this year.

And help you realize your origin, your divine origin, and therefore your capability, because you've got divine DNA.

And then help you focus and choose a possibility.

You know lots of people that have awesome capability and they don't do anything with it.

How sad.

Unrealized talent is legend, right?

But focusing on a possibility and then going after it, learning your blessed and powerful way to add good to the world.

Purpose, prosperity and joy, those are inextricably linked.

Choosing a purpose, creating value adds to life, prosperity, financial prosperity, prosperity of your soul.

And that brings you to a place of unbounded joy.

Now, I would invite you with all my heart.

Not because I'm trying to sell books.

Get this book.

And then follow the processes to create your own documents of being, your own declarations, your own scroll.

If that model of somebody reading it from the castle wall appeals to you.

But above all, make a choice right here, right now, to prepare yourself on purpose for every day.

We only get one day.

Today, we get.

We get one day at a time.

Tomorrow is never guaranteed.

But even if it was, why wouldn't we want to make the most of today?

Give a chance to affect 10 people or a hundred people today, or make a million dollars today.

Eh, I'm too lazy.

I'll wait.

I'll do it tomorrow.

Well, tomorrow's gonna present a completely different set of opportunities and challenges.

You deserve to live an ultimate life.

Purpose, prosperity and joy, or whatever your beautiful, powerful words are.

But it isn't going to create itself.

Nobody can take it from you.

Nobody can prevent you, and nobody's going to do it for you.

My commitment is to help as many people as I can.

My goal this year is 300 million, and that includes you.

Right here, right now.

Let's create your ultimate life.

Go to Kellen Fluekiger Media.

Use the contact form.

Get that book Living with Purpose and Power.

If you know you want to tell a story, go to Dream Build.

Write it.

Get the help you need.

Stop hiding behind fears and worries and the story that you don't have a story worth telling.

That's nonsense.

I love you.

I invite you to step into your own greatness and opportunity and possibility and change the world.

You can, you know.

The question is, will you?

And in the process create and live your ultimate life?

Never hold back and you'll never ask why.

Open your heart right here, right now.

Your opportunity for massive growth is right in front of you.

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