Episodes

In this episode, we talk about choices you might have about how you can add good to the world. Sometimes we have the idea that because were individuals or don’t have a lot of resources that there isn’t much we can do to make a difference. Nothing could be further from the truth. We are taught that no one will look out for us so we have to look out for ourselves and that everyone else takes a second position. The truth of our humanity is that as we choose to love and serve each other we are far ...

In this episode, I discuss the podcast episodes I have been doing for the last seven months. I started an effort because I wanted to work on my goal of reaching 10 million people in 2022. I have committed to helping many discover develop and serve with their divine gifts. These shows increase my reach. A surprise that I did not expect was the connection I have with the hosts. Doing a podcast is a labor of love. We’ve been doing this show for two years and the amount of work it takes is signific...

In this episode, we dive deeper into what I am learning from all the many podcast hosts I’ve had the opportunity to meet. Most of them started their show coming out of some personal experience or trauma that they have dealt with and now want to help others overcome. They have come from around the world and from more countries than I can count. They seem to intuitively understand that joy and true fulfillment isn’t a matter of money. Cash buys access but not happiness. I have sometimes wept as I...

In this episode, we explore the yearning we all feel inside to do good. We are divine beings and our nature is to love and serve each other. I call that “adding good to the world.” A question to ask yourself is this “where are you feeling right now that you want to love and give service?” If you look at little children, you know that it’s natural to love and give. Sometimes children are selfish but mostly they share and do it in a spirit of kindness and love. We are taught somewhere along the w...

In this episode, we conclude our forgiveness journey. The joy of self-development is always in the process. The joy is the journey is the best description. There is no place to arrive. You are always learning, choosing, and growing in every situation and experience. As you do, your joy also grows. If you have chosen the path of forgiveness, you will feel the divine invitation to change. You will hear intuition explain and invite you to higher and higher vibrations. Joy is the birthright of all ...

In this episode, we talk about the realities of this journey. Forgiveness is often a hard road, but it is worth all the effort. If you forgive those who hurt you, freedom comes into your life. Protecting yourself is essential, and after that allow justice to be done by others. Get help as needed for healing. The same is true if you are the person who made mistakes. Even intentional wrongdoing. If you make all the amends you can, and never forgive yourself, you remain eternally stunted in your g...

In this episode, we get to a fundamental truth that is at the heart of the forgiveness journey. While we may sometimes feel powerless, the truth is that we are the architect of our lives. We alone control everything we experience. That is true even though things happen we did not ask for or want. We don’t control the weather, but we choose how we react to it. Whether you are the victim or the perpetrator, the event is past and you choose how to interpret and deal with it. You can live in self-l...

In this episode, we talk about the normal tendency and habits we all have to be inconsistent. We can intend and even commit to do something and then falter in the process. In forgiveness, that is when we try to let something go, either against ourselves or another, and then something happens. A new offense, a new reminder, some other form of trigger. We are again engulfed in anger toward the offender or fear of being hurt again. We might experience a new round of self-loathing because someone r...

In this episode, we talk about the other side of guilt. That is resentment, anger, rage, and revenge. If you have been harmed, then there is often a desire to have the person who hurt you experience suffering to pay for what they did. If it is not a person, we blame God, the government of the universe. Holding onto those grudges is like drinking poison and thinking the other person will die. They don’t. Laws work as they do, and God will balance the scales in His own time and manner. As we hold...

In this episode, we talk about a common feeling that often crushes our hearts and impedes our forgiveness of ourselves. When we do things that hurt others we feel bad. If we don’t at that time, later maturity and insight teach us responsibility and consequences. We feel guilty. We wish we made other choices. First of all, guilt is a warning. Something is not right. Like pain in our bodies, guilt tells us to stop. That uneasy feeling can keep us safe. Guilt can motivate us to change. When we wan...

In this episode, we talk about glasses. There is a saying that we don’t see the world the way it is, we see it the way we are. That is often recited as an indictment. It is not. It is a simple statement of fact. We have a set of beliefs that come from our experiences. They form the lenses through which we see life. The first big breakthrough is understanding that there are other legitimate and valuable points of view. That is a fundamental omission from most teaching systems. I did not understa...

In this episode, we talk about the obvious. Forgiveness is not an event. It starts with a Liberation Event that gives you a glimpse of what is possible and a determination to get it done. Then comes the real work. Often, perhaps every day there will be reminders of past events and their lingering effects. When that happens, you must have tools that you immediately deploy so you don’t fall into a hole. Then you must also have a process for self-forgiveness on the way. No matter who you are, ther...

In this episode, we come face to face with the difficulty of this task. It is not trivial and can seem completely overwhelming at times. The pain was real, the wound was deep, and the effects may last a lifetime. That is not in dispute. The question is “Are you willing to let that go so you can truly grow?” My experience is that the only place you can really get the power you need is from the divine. Creating and deepening a relationship with God was the only place I ever found the wisdom, the ...

In this episode, we come face to face with the reality of the choices this process involves. You can’t forgive and cling to the old feelings. If you were the perpetrator of the painful things, you can pretend to forgive and still harbor deep resentment towards yourself. The deeper you hide it, the worse the decay. Realize that letting go of the anger, fear, or self-loathing is not a repudiation of what happened. Instead, it is a choice to end the power it has over you. If someone hurts you and ...

In this episode, we start on the real work. It is often tempting to dance around the edges of forgiveness. WE might dabble with the idea but resent the depth of the changes. If you are angry at someone else, it is easy to default to blaming the “other” for the problem in the first place. Yes, they did something. Your choice to forgive is not related to that. You can forgive if you never hear a single word from “them,” or they never change. Knowing this can really be a blessing. This process is ...

In this episode, we talk about things that can get you started. I called them Liberations events. They almost never come on their own. If they do, it is usually in the form of a Divine Invitation. Something happens, maybe small and growing or perhaps big and sudden. You know you must change. In order for them to be effective, you must be open. At least, you must want things to be different. The relationship strain, the avoidance, the nasty looks, and notes. You can find them in books, videos, a...

In this episode, we talk about the first step in the process of forgiveness. Until you embark on t his wonderful journey, it is only an idea. It can be full of misunderstanding and resentment when you contemplate letting someone “off the hook” for something. It is nothing at all like that. We live inside of our context straight-jacket until we don’t. Our Beliefs, Definitions, Experiences, Expectations, and Perceptions (BDEEP) limit our potential until we release them. There is always more than ...

In this episode, we talk about reasons to forgive. No one can make you forgive anyone. This is a sacred choice and sacred responsibility. There are three big reasons it is powerful and beautiful. First, it is liberating. When you forgive, you are free from the anger you hold towards others or yourself. Second, it creates growth. There are vistas you cannot imagine until you embrace forgiveness. You can hear about the possibilities like someone describing a beautiful scene of a stunning mountain...

In this episode, we talk about what forgiveness is and what it isn’t. I give a description that will work for our purposes. Forgiveness is not absolution. It is not acting like something didn’t happen. Forgiveness is not putting yourself in harm's way. It is not sweeping things under the rug. It is not ignorance. Forgiveness is allowing reality to be what it is. Whatever has happened to you or whatever you have done cannot be changed. Where do you go from here? Forgiveness is letting the energy...

In this episode, we talk about the other side of the coin. Besides receiving hurt as we grow up, we inflict it also. We are unkind, we get angry, we say and do things that hurt others. Sometimes we hurt others because we have been hurt. The saying “hurt people hurt people,” is true and shows the connection. Sometimes we hurt others by accident. Often we justify actions that hurt others because we want something or because we pretend it is OK. We lie, we cheat, we steal we are unfaithful, we bre...

In this episode, we begin an 18-part series on the critical topic of forgiveness. Next to the word love, forgiveness is the most powerful word in the universe. We often misunderstand this word and confuse it with absolution or forgetting something or pretending something bad did not happen. It is none of that. From our earliest minutes we collect injury, we inflict injury. Often accidentally and sometimes on purpose. These injuries accumulate and become hard to deal with. Likes rocks in a backp...

In this episode, Kellan starts this series on forgiveness. So, the first question is who hurt you? It doesn't have to be physical, although Kellan suffered physical abuse as a child. But, Kellan begins with talking about all of the invisible rocks that we carry around and how forgiveness figures into this. From the first time we fall off the bed as an infant to falling when we learn to walk to scolding, slaps, and spankings we get for misbehavior, we experience pain and injury. Whether well-inte...

In this episode, we explore a similar and related idea. Love is an intentional choice to use your spiritual, physical, emotional, and mental resources to lift and bless someone in their highest and best interest. Sometimes we can’t know for sure what that might be, but it is always clear how to serve if we want to. When you engage in service, what do you do? What actions do you take to intentionally serve those around you? When you do that, how do you feel? Your business can be the highest and ...

n this episode, we follow up on the vocal reiki episode by exploring the sound of love. Whether it is the musical intonation of someone’s name or any other way, what is the sound of love? You have the greatest ability to create love by discovering and using y our unique voice. What does that mean? It means that we each have a unique way of expressing our contribution to the world. Have you discovered your unique voice? What is it? Are you aware of your power and do you choose to use it to love ...