Episodes

In this episode, we explore your infinite possibility as a creator. I used to spend so much time reacting to what was given to me. I waited to see what the day would bring and then I tried to make the best of it. What if we just sang the song we have. What if we danced like no one was watching. Is that weird? Who cares anyway. Why are we afraid to be what we want to be. Do we believe our desires are ugly? Why do we put so much credibility on everything that others might think or say? What if th...

In this episode, I ask us to consider a question that is powerful. When things happen we don’t want, do we complain and ask “Why is this happening to me?” or alternative3ly, do we ask “What is the gift in this pain?” I have learned the second question is way better and helps me in two powerful ways. First, it requires me to get above the situation and look at what can come from where I am. This draws my mind away from complaining and blaming – two actions that usually do nothing. Second, it hel...

In this episode, we look at the value of hardship and trial. It is a trivial thing to say “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.” There is truth to that, and it also is sometimes glibly stated to waive off the struggles associated with real hardship. The trial can crush your life and make you a blubbering victim. Or, a trial can simply be an event or set of circumstances you have right now. Nothing lasts forever, and things always change. What do you want to learn that 5 years from now can ...

In this episode, we expand the last episode to include your personal demons. You have a trial. Not something from the past, but right this minute. What are you fighting with at this second? What is the demon that is looming large in preventing you from creating all you could create from your life? Describe it. Give it a name and look at it in the light. Often we have trials that are far smaller when we actually give it dimension and light. There may be things you cannot change. That is always t...

In this episode, we chat with an amazing woman who lives the truth of the Contagious Smile. She has a story of domestic abuse and violence that made me cringe. I wondered if she was still breathing. We did not focus on the violence here, but rather on the choices she made when it was in the rearview. It is easy to give up and blame the world or God for our misfortunes. Instead, we all have the opportunity to make love the center of our beingness. Victoria has done that and has helped her specia...

In this episode, we talk about an all too common barrier that gets in the way of a lot of growth. We look at what other people are doing or imagine what we think they are doing, compare our own circumstances to that, and almost always come off unfavorably in the process. This can be harmful. Social media lends itself to lies and bragging. We compare our internal failures and struggles with someone else’s highlight reels. You determine what your ultimate life looks like. You determine your own p...

In this episode, we talk about the contrast between living a life focused inward and living a life focused on service and love. We all know when we sit quietly with ourselves that we are divine beings and came to this world with gifts and talents. We often get stuck trying to figure out what our gifts are. Four keys to discovering your gifts 1. Look for your gift in the context of how they serve others. 2. Connect with things that you do well or easily and that you enjoy doing. The gifts you ha...

In this episode, we talk about choices you might have about how you can add good to the world. Sometimes we have the idea that because were individuals or don’t have a lot of resources that there isn’t much we can do to make a difference. Nothing could be further from the truth. We are taught that no one will look out for us so we have to look out for ourselves and that everyone else takes a second position. The truth of our humanity is that as we choose to love and serve each other we are far ...

In this episode, I discuss the podcast episodes I have been doing for the last seven months. I started an effort because I wanted to work on my goal of reaching 10 million people in 2022. I have committed to helping many discover develop and serve with their divine gifts. These shows increase my reach. A surprise that I did not expect was the connection I have with the hosts. Doing a podcast is a labor of love. We’ve been doing this show for two years and the amount of work it takes is signific...

In this episode, we dive deeper into what I am learning from all the many podcast hosts I’ve had the opportunity to meet. Most of them started their show coming out of some personal experience or trauma that they have dealt with and now want to help others overcome. They have come from around the world and from more countries than I can count. They seem to intuitively understand that joy and true fulfillment isn’t a matter of money. Cash buys access but not happiness. I have sometimes wept as I...

In this episode, we explore the yearning we all feel inside to do good. We are divine beings and our nature is to love and serve each other. I call that “adding good to the world.” A question to ask yourself is this “where are you feeling right now that you want to love and give service?” If you look at little children, you know that it’s natural to love and give. Sometimes children are selfish but mostly they share and do it in a spirit of kindness and love. We are taught somewhere along the w...

In this episode, we conclude our forgiveness journey. The joy of self-development is always in the process. The joy is the journey is the best description. There is no place to arrive. You are always learning, choosing, and growing in every situation and experience. As you do, your joy also grows. If you have chosen the path of forgiveness, you will feel the divine invitation to change. You will hear intuition explain and invite you to higher and higher vibrations. Joy is the birthright of all ...

In this episode, we talk about the realities of this journey. Forgiveness is often a hard road, but it is worth all the effort. If you forgive those who hurt you, freedom comes into your life. Protecting yourself is essential, and after that allow justice to be done by others. Get help as needed for healing. The same is true if you are the person who made mistakes. Even intentional wrongdoing. If you make all the amends you can, and never forgive yourself, you remain eternally stunted in your g...

In this episode, we get to a fundamental truth that is at the heart of the forgiveness journey. While we may sometimes feel powerless, the truth is that we are the architect of our lives. We alone control everything we experience. That is true even though things happen we did not ask for or want. We don’t control the weather, but we choose how we react to it. Whether you are the victim or the perpetrator, the event is past and you choose how to interpret and deal with it. You can live in self-l...

In this episode, we talk about the normal tendency and habits we all have to be inconsistent. We can intend and even commit to do something and then falter in the process. In forgiveness, that is when we try to let something go, either against ourselves or another, and then something happens. A new offense, a new reminder, some other form of trigger. We are again engulfed in anger toward the offender or fear of being hurt again. We might experience a new round of self-loathing because someone r...

In this episode, we talk about the other side of guilt. That is resentment, anger, rage, and revenge. If you have been harmed, then there is often a desire to have the person who hurt you experience suffering to pay for what they did. If it is not a person, we blame God, the government of the universe. Holding onto those grudges is like drinking poison and thinking the other person will die. They don’t. Laws work as they do, and God will balance the scales in His own time and manner. As we hold...

In this episode, we talk about a common feeling that often crushes our hearts and impedes our forgiveness of ourselves. When we do things that hurt others we feel bad. If we don’t at that time, later maturity and insight teach us responsibility and consequences. We feel guilty. We wish we made other choices. First of all, guilt is a warning. Something is not right. Like pain in our bodies, guilt tells us to stop. That uneasy feeling can keep us safe. Guilt can motivate us to change. When we wan...

In this episode, we talk about glasses. There is a saying that we don’t see the world the way it is, we see it the way we are. That is often recited as an indictment. It is not. It is a simple statement of fact. We have a set of beliefs that come from our experiences. They form the lenses through which we see life. The first big breakthrough is understanding that there are other legitimate and valuable points of view. That is a fundamental omission from most teaching systems. I did not understa...

In this episode, we talk about the obvious. Forgiveness is not an event. It starts with a Liberation Event that gives you a glimpse of what is possible and a determination to get it done. Then comes the real work. Often, perhaps every day there will be reminders of past events and their lingering effects. When that happens, you must have tools that you immediately deploy so you don’t fall into a hole. Then you must also have a process for self-forgiveness on the way. No matter who you are, ther...

In this episode, we come face to face with the difficulty of this task. It is not trivial and can seem completely overwhelming at times. The pain was real, the wound was deep, and the effects may last a lifetime. That is not in dispute. The question is “Are you willing to let that go so you can truly grow?” My experience is that the only place you can really get the power you need is from the divine. Creating and deepening a relationship with God was the only place I ever found the wisdom, the ...

In this episode, we come face to face with the reality of the choices this process involves. You can’t forgive and cling to the old feelings. If you were the perpetrator of the painful things, you can pretend to forgive and still harbor deep resentment towards yourself. The deeper you hide it, the worse the decay. Realize that letting go of the anger, fear, or self-loathing is not a repudiation of what happened. Instead, it is a choice to end the power it has over you. If someone hurts you and ...

In this episode, we start on the real work. It is often tempting to dance around the edges of forgiveness. WE might dabble with the idea but resent the depth of the changes. If you are angry at someone else, it is easy to default to blaming the “other” for the problem in the first place. Yes, they did something. Your choice to forgive is not related to that. You can forgive if you never hear a single word from “them,” or they never change. Knowing this can really be a blessing. This process is ...

In this episode, we talk about things that can get you started. I called them Liberations events. They almost never come on their own. If they do, it is usually in the form of a Divine Invitation. Something happens, maybe small and growing or perhaps big and sudden. You know you must change. In order for them to be effective, you must be open. At least, you must want things to be different. The relationship strain, the avoidance, the nasty looks, and notes. You can find them in books, videos, a...

In this episode, we talk about the first step in the process of forgiveness. Until you embark on t his wonderful journey, it is only an idea. It can be full of misunderstanding and resentment when you contemplate letting someone “off the hook” for something. It is nothing at all like that. We live inside of our context straight-jacket until we don’t. Our Beliefs, Definitions, Experiences, Expectations, and Perceptions (BDEEP) limit our potential until we release them. There is always more than ...