Episodes

In this episode, we talk about an old familiar song. The ballad of not good enough is a top hit in everyone’s mind at different points in our lives. What does it even mean to say, “I’m not good enough?” Usually, it is a self-imposed judgement based on a limiting estimate of our own worth or ability. Sometimes we use a different word. “I’m not ______ enough (smart, cool, old, strong, capable.”) The list goes on forever and always means we are wanting in some important area. This opinion is alway...

In this episode, we talk about walking the dog. Not that walking a dog creates a rotten day. I learned a lesson about rescuing bad days from a walk with one of my dogs. We all have rotten days. Days where everything goes wrong, and no one does what we expect. Sometimes that can be overwhelming. How do we get past that so the whole day isn’t lost? First, we recognize there is always too much to do. Next, we sort out what is ours to handle, and what belongs to others. Then we make choices about w...

In this episode, we talk about habits created by our current “instant everything” culture. There is a myth that we are supposed to be good at everything, always have everything under control and keep everything in tip-top shape. This is a painful lie and an impossible fantasy. Believing this lie will kill you. We all have doubts about our own worthiness and ability. We all have stories about what we can and cannot achieve. The key is to question your doubts and not your potential. We all have s...

In this episode, we talk about a common problem created by our hectic lifestyle. As any given moment you may have limited energy to do a certain thing. The first question to ask is what does this mean? Is the lack of energy a physical situation or something coming from lack of desire to do something? There is so much we allow to be imposed on us that we often feel overwhelmed and powerless to control our own lives. What are the habits you have? Do you allow others to control your daily agenda, ...

In this episode, we talk about a common monster that saps productivity and joy out of many days. The idea of blame and the creation of excuses or reasons. When things do not go as planned or desired, we have an immediate need to blame someone or something. This is not inherent in us. It is learned. We have created a culture of avoiding responsibility and of assigning blame. We learn from early childhood to blame someone else because we are afraid of the embarrassment of punishment. There is so ...

In this episode, we talk about a big one right out of the gate. Procrastination is a master ticket to failure. If we put off doing anything, nothing will ever improve. Obvious, but still a big sticking point. Ruts in the ground cause problems, just ask any bike rider who has crashed while riding a rutted dirt road. Sometimes we put things off because we fear failure. We think we can’t and we don’t want to feel the failure so we don’t even start. Sometimes we sabotage our efforts with stories an...

In this episode, we talk about why change can be hard. When we have learned a particular way of doing things, it can be hard to do it differently. Try to tie your shoes a new way. You can do it, but it can be frustrating and seem complicated. An old method of coping with life can seem impossible to alter. First, you must decide why you really want to change. What is it worth to you? Why would you go through the effort to make it different? Be clear about the reward and visualize the new you. Re...

In this episode, we start our 16-part journey into exactly how to tackle monsters that have held me back and that may be getting in your way. First, let’s get clear. For this to have the most use, don’t just listen to the words. Let them sink in deeply and declare at this very moment that you are a new person. These episodes can change your life and free you from long h help problems if you will go all-in right now. The best way here is to start with something smaller. Pick one, maybe two thing...

In this episode, we are graced with a man of true conviction. Coming through his own story of struggle, defeat, and ultimately losing his medical license in England, he has come to America and makes it his personal mission to find people who are in the gutter and introduce them to God. Fabulous work!! He gave his personal phone number and an invitation if you are struggling any time to text him. He will call you back to give you a few minutes to lift you up. He is truly a man in line with my mi...

In this episode, we talk more about having fun. So often we are in a hurry to get somewhere. You are on the way to the ski hill. Is it only fun when you are there, or is the trip good too? That is your choice. I finally have learned that joy is the journey. It took me a long time to realize that simple truth. I had a counselor helping me with my depression asked me once if I would enjoy helicoptering down from the top of the mountain after I rode the ski lift up. Of course not. The point is the...

In this episode, we talk about having fun. I mean, after all, what is the Ultimate Life™ if not enjoyable. Sometimes I talk with folks who have the idea that everything good has to be a struggle. I wonder if God found it a struggle to create the universe and populate it with us, or was it fun? I know that answer. There is no question that life is hard. Most people are struggling with some issue most of the time. There are always things to fix and to do better. The Ultimate Life is not only when...

In this episode, we talk about the work required to achieve true mastery. There is nothing in a caterpillar that tells you it’s going to be a butterfly, is a quote from Buckminster Fuller. What does that mean? Even though you are a caterpillar. Do you know what you will become? What if you can become anything? Malcolm Gladwell is quoted as saying it takes 10,000 of hard work to become a master of something. What does that even mean? Is it worth the effort? What kinds of things do you want to ma...

In this episode, we discuss an important aspect of self-growth. What is the difference between being alone and feeling lonely? Why do we feel the need to be with others at times and not others? Are we ever really alone. Why is loneliness a barrier to creating the Ultimate Life? What can we do about this? In one sense, we are always alone. No one can inhabit our feelings and thoughts. No one really knows what someone else is feeling. That can create intense separation. Where does the intentional...

In this episode, we talk about external pressure. Everyone has felt the need to perform. Starting with our earliest memories, we want to look good or do good. We want the affirmation and praise that come. Sometimes that is poison. We crave it and resent it at the same time. That can be a terrible monster. Maybe you are filled with “I know I should.” One good question is always to ask, “Who made that rule?” Is it something you have chosen in your life, or something leftover from society, family,...

In this episode, we talk about a big monster that sometimes contaminates everything we do. We all have a sense of obligation to someone or something. Sometimes we feel things expected of us are way over the top and we are buried. We feel completely overwhelmed. Who owns your life anyway? We all make commitments, sometimes implied and sometimes explicitly. Your word is all you have, so use it carefully and intentionally. If you make a choice, live into that choice with style and love. You can ch...

In this episode, we talk about where these beauties come from. The first and biggest place is your BDEEP. Your Beliefs, Definitions, Experiences, Expectations, and Perceptions. Together those five things are how we see the world. They limit what we believe is possible and therefore what we strive for. Next are the Labels. Those things we have chosen to accept as “just who we are.” “I’m disorganized.” “I’m always late.” “Everything bad always happens to me.” And on and on. They may be true up to...

In this episode, we get into the nitty-gritty. It's easy to talk about things in the abstract. That thing over there is easy to describe and judge. We want to get to what is really in your way. One thing is sure. You are the creator, owner, and caregiver of your monsters. You can get rid of them any time you want. That may sound like a foreign language, especially if you have been the zookeeper of a hoard of monsters for a long time. Each one may have a deep relationship with you. Telling the t...

In this episode, we address apathy. Some people live much of their lives not really striving for anything beyond the next moment. You are allowed to do that. If you do that, what you have when you die is only what you have created. If you strive for nothing, you create nothing and you take nothing with you. We have all yearned for something. Yearning is only the start. Next comes the choice to do. The decision to act on the yearning. We are given a desire to love, create and serve from our firs...

In this episode, we talk about the “things” that hold us back from being who we really could be. We all have stories about why we are where we are and why it is ok to stay there. Often these stories are fear-based. We live in subtle or abject terror about what we are worth or what others think of us. We have monsters that happen outside of us. Weather, illness, pandemic, setbacks, betrayal. We don’t control those, but we do control how we act in the face of those things. Then we have inner mons...

In this episode, we talk about three things that help us deal with trauma and the crazy pace of life. We have created a world with 24/7 stimulation and an incessant bombardment of news, stimulation, and noise. That easily overloads what we can do. Why would we allow ourselves to live that way? Meditation, Mindfulness, and Yoga are the three ways Keith teaches to control the madness and to exercise control over our minds and our lives. When you choose to learn these simple skills, even just star...

In this episode, we talk about what to do when life throws you setbacks and curveballs. No matter who you are and what you do, you will fail. There are days, weeks, and even years that seem to fight you every step. You can always give up, but if you do, you have nothing except the regret of not trying. More than 50% of people are facing a serious hardship at any given moment. That is normal. So when life is really hard, know you are in the majority. The real truth is that less than 2% of people...

In this episode, we talk about the daily work required to have the Ultimate Life. To really create a life of purpose, prosperity and joy is not an accident. There are simple things you do every day, regardless of the day is for you or against you. You choose who you are and how you show up in every circumstance. First, you must plan. If you have no goals, then you accomplish nothing. If you take no shots, you never score. Life never goes according to plan, but you must start with one. Then you ...

In this episode, we talk about how to create energy. If we want electricity, we know a half dozen ways to create it. Energy in your body and mind is the same. It is not a mystery. There is tons of science and experience to help you. The question is are you willing to change who you are being today to get it? If you want to create energy in your body, you need to look at your nutrition, your exercise, and your sleep. Those are the first three easy areas to see if you are unintentionally trashing...

In this episode, we talk about those things that destroy energy and motivation. There are three big things that eat your heart. The first is comparison. You look at others’ pictures and imagined success. You imagine you are way behind. You look at their highlights and see your own failings. Then you die inside. The second suck is history. If we pull up your past, maybe it is full of broken commitments. That is true for most people. We a really lousy at keeping our word to ourselves until we lea...